April 21, 2010

There's Gotta Be...

There are some of you out there who have found your perfect match.  That one person who means and is everything to you.  They are your world!  there are also some of you out there that are searching for that perfect match.  The one that you can be everything for, and they can be for you as well. 

We all want that feeling you have when you're with that special someone.  They make you feel like no one else can.  they give you butterflies in your stomach (the good kind) when you think of them.  You get excited about the simple things, like even getting a text or an email.  No one wants to be alone.  We all need someone.  So...today I'm here to offer you some hope. 

I had an email discussion with one of my readers recently.  I will respect her privacy and not name her.  The basic premise of the conversation was that she is very submissive and has needs, yet she is alone.  She is not in a relationship, she is not owned, she is not collared, she is nothing to anyone at the moment.  She truly needs a a dominant figure in her life...in her real life...to guide her and make her into all she needs to be.  I don't necessarily believe that there is one specific person, and only one, out there for us.  I do believe there are people that a a really good match for us, and will fill every void we have.  In my response to my reader, the main point I told her was to no settle for just anyone.  Don't let your need for a Dominant override your sensibility and allow you to be with someone who may not be right for you.  It is better to remain alone now, and keep searching for the right one.  Otherwise, you're apt to not make it together, and you'll be right back where tyou started down the road.  So don't settle for anyone or anything less that what you need and deserve.  It is unfair to al involved.

There is a song that I really like, and it pretty much speaks to me along these very lines.  I hope you like it as well.  One of the best lyric segments of the song is this"

"You can't give up, (when you're looking for) a diamond in the rough (cause you never know)
When it shows up, (make sure you're holding on)
Cause it could be the one, the one you're waiting on"

The band of which I am speaking is Nickelback.  The song is called "Gotta Be Someone" which is on the album "Dark Horse".  The video and lyrics are below.  I hope you enjoy the song, and just remember...in the words of the late Jimmy V..."Don't give up!  Don't ever give up!"





Gotta Be Somebody - Nickelback (Dark Horse)


This time, I wonder what it feels like
To find the one in this life, the one we all dream of
But dreams just aren't enough
So I'll be waiting for the real thing, I'll know it by the feeling
The moment when we're meeting, will play out like a scene
Straight off the silver screen
So I'll be holding my breath, right up 'til the end
Until that moment when, I find the one that I'll spend forever with

Cause nobody wants to be the last one there
Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares
Someone to love with my life in their hands
There's gotta be somebody for me like that
Cause nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know they're not alone
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there

Tonight, out on the street, out in the moonlight
And dammit this feels too right, it's just like déja vu
Me standing here with you
So I'll be holding my breath, could this be the end?
Is it that moment when, I find the one that I'll spend forever with

Cause nobody wants to be the last one there
Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares
Someone to love with my life in their hands
There's gotta be somebody for me like that
Cause nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know they're not alone
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there

You can't give up, (when you're looking for) a diamond in the rough (cause you never know)
When it shows up, (make sure you're holding on)
Cause it could be the one, the one you're waiting on
Cause nobody wants to be the last one there
And everyone wants to feel like someone cares
Someone to love with my life in their hands
There's gotta be somebody for me, oh

Nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know they're not alone
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there
Nobody wants to be the last one there
Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares
There's somebody else that feels the same somewhere
There's gotta be somebody for me out there

7 comments:

mouse said...

DV Sir,

All I can say is OOoooh ya!

Hugs,
mouse

Banana Boat said...

DV Sir,

I've been following your blog for a little while now and I will say I thoroughly have enjoyed all that I've read. But this one in particular, I was literally just having this very same discussion with my Sir. Perfectly said and it echos my sentiments exactly.

Regards,
M's girl J

Dom Tom said...

I am one of those completely lucky people who is madly in love. I agree that someone who is needy may mistake security for love. the problem is when you first start out in a relationship you often get those feelings, but it's not until later that you really get to know someone. I have had deeper and deeper feelings for my lizard, even though when we first met I felt she did not meet all my needs. It's such an elusive and wonderful thing!

And great song.

Jz said...

Oh, heavens, yes. Settling = Bad Idea
It's hard to remember sometimes when you're alone but being with the wrong person is far lonelier than being on your own.
Hang tight, undisclosed one. There really is hope.

p.s.- for what it's worth, I met BG on a vanilla dating site. Don't limit your search.

(Rockin' song, btw)

Baby Girl said...

Great song, DV, and even better advice! :) Sometimes we need to date a few schmucks to know when you've really found your match, but that is definitely not the same thing as settling. If you lower your standards, you'll only end up disappointing yourself and potentially losing out on other opportunities.

Thanks again for the song!

Take care,
Baby Girl :)

DauntlessVitality said...

Mouse...
Thank you. I always appreciate your comments.

His Little One...
Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you are enjoying your time here.

Dom Tom...
Finding the right person can seem very elusive. In the case of the sub mentioned, she knew of a conflict right from the start and it probably wouldn't change. It wasn't about meeting her needs. But you are correct in that needs can be met and worked through as long as some type of initial connection is there, mentally and physcially.

Jz...
Very well put...being with the wrong person is lonlier than actually being alone. That is so true. Being with someone you don't really want to be with will drive you crazy and make you do everything you can to be alone, which defeats the whole purpose. And I agree that you should never keep a door closed. What you need really can come frm unexpected places.

BG...
Thanks as always. Settling is horrible. It's also not respecting yourself and feeling you deserve better. We can all get lost in the fact of having someone, rather than having the right someone for us. Hope can seem lost when you alone and lonely. But in time, things will fall into place with patience.

Missy n’ B said...

Really good advice! Thanks for posting :)

xo, Missy