May 4, 2014

The Mental and Emotional Benefits...

I read a post a week ago by P Surren titled "Statistics is Becoming a Real Pain in My Ass".  Most of the

post was about her struggles with her statistics class and how much she hates and doesn't understand it.  But that's not what the main point of the post was, at least not to me.  You see, as much as she was struggling and stressing over it, it was the spanking her Daddy gave her that helped get her focused and back on track.

We are all involved in this lifestyle for many reasons.  We all get something from it and need things from it that help us stay in balance and feeling our best.  Without it, we feel as though we are lacking or missing something.  There is a void.  Sometimes it's the physical aspects we need.  Sometimes it's the mental and emotional calmness it gives us.  And sometimes it is the combination of it all.

As much as we all read and see the sexual aspects of this lifestyle, it's not always about the sex.  It's what is behind the sex that we thrive on.  It's the power and control that drives us.  For some, it's giving up that power and control.  For others, it's having it and being able to exert it.  Yes, that may bring about the sexual play and arousal, but it's the power, or lack thereof, that we need the most.

In the case of P Surren it had nothing at all do to with sex, and I think in the day to day lives we lead within this lifestyle, that is typically the case.  It's being in our roles and place for each other within our relationships. There are submissives that need the guidance, leadership and Dominance of their partner, and there are the Dominants that need to be able to lead, be in control, and have the submission of their partner.  Each one works together to be what the other needs.  Each feeds off the other.  We need this exchange back and forth to be able to be who we are, to feel right, and to feel like ourselves...to feel balanced and centered...to feel focused.

For P Surren, she was off-kilter, couldn't focus, and was really stressed and having a hard time.  Her Daddy recognized this, called her aside, and gave her the spanking she needed to be able to let go of the stress, clear her mind, and get back on track.  What it the spanking itself?  Was it her Daddy stepping up, taking the lead, recognizing her problem, and taking action with his Dominant position?  I believe it was a combination of both.  It was both of these things that she needed to relieve her stress, be able to feel more like herself, and get re-balanced.

I think this speaks loudly to the essence of what this lifestyle is and means to us.  It's not just about the sex, or bondage, or wild play.  It's about the peace and serenity it gives us.  It's about the benefits we see on a mental and emotional level from being involved in a power exchange relationship.  In no way is this what everyone likes or needs, or is it for everyone.  Yet, I think the basis of it is pretty much the same for us all.  It centers around the exchange of power and roles in the relationship, and just how much we really do need that in our lives.  It helps provide the balance we need to feel like ourselves through the expression of this give and take of Power and Dominance.

This is certainly not just geared towards the submissive either.  I think this is just as much of a need for the Dominant.  As much as the submissive needs to feel this power over her, the Dominant needs to feel his power and control and know that it is expected of him, accepted from him, and that his actions in being this way do have great benefits to his submissive.  In the case of P Surren, I'm sure her Daddy got just as much from the spanking as she did.  There is no better feeling for a Dominant than the satisfaction of seeing his submissive happy and content from his Dominance, and knowing she is that way because of him.

We all gain from this, Dominant and submissive alike.  The mental and emotional benefits for us are great.  And when everyone is happy and content, the rest of the relationship will be able to flourish and go farther as well.  So, go do some spanking, or whatever activity you prefer, and find your balance and happiness.  It's waiting for you!

4 comments:

  1. Love this!! This is exactly the point that I was making in my post. Thanks for the shout out too.

    hugs
    p

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  2. This post is spot on in so many ways. It's not about the activity, its about why the activity is needed. The underlying concept that keeps a Dom and sub beautifully dancing together.

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  3. Oh, I did a double-take when I saw that picture; I was in just that position less than an hour ago, about to get the attitude adjustment I needed so badly.
    Now afterwards I am sore, but safe and secure, and I'll go to sleep happily in his arms.
    You're so right, my security comes from knowing he'll do what I need, and I love him for it.

    Thanks, DV, you've expressed this so well.

    Ash

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  4. Sir: This spoke volumes to me. Thank You

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