January 27, 2012

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Welcome to Fantastic Ass Friday.  After weeks worth of FAF Playoffs, we are now ready to resume our regularly scheduled program.  I know you are all tired of seeing and voting on the same pictures from the playoffs, so this week will have some fresh asses for your enjoyment and voting pleasure. 

A special thanks to Southern Sir for submitting one of the pictures being used used in this week's FAF.  You may all feel free to submit pictures to me by email if you come across a nice picture you think would be good for FAF.  

I hope you have all had a good week, and have a great weekend ahead of you. 







January 26, 2012

2011 FAF Championship Winner

Thanks to all of you who participated in the 2011 FAF playoffs.  I appreciate your involvement immensely.   I enjoy being able to bring you Fantastic Asses each week and finding out what it is that you like the most about the pictures.  Below is the overall winner for 2011.  I have also included the overall winner for 2010.  These are the two pictures that you the viewers voted on as your favorites the past two years.  Thank you all very much for your continued support of FAF.  I look forward to another year of being able to bring to you wonderful ass pictures to vote on each week.

2011 Fan Voted Most Fantastic Ass

2010 Fan Voted Most Fantastic Ass

January 25, 2012

Have A Little Faith...

Many times we all tend to over-think a situation.  Or we take something said too literally.  Or we take some action based on our own view without having the full story, and that view may not be anything like the reality of the situation.  Whatever the case may be, it is only human nature to do this.  It can be very difficult to look at something without our own personal biases and views. 

Typically when you over-think and obsess about something, it never leads to a positive outcome.  Over-thinking brings out anything and everything negative.  When this happens you begin to believe all the negative aspects of the situation and things can quickly spiral out of control.  You jump to conclusions and take action based on the negative perspective, and many times these actions lead down a path that is very hard to be undone. Taking actions that are totally off base can make it very hard to stop, put it in reverse, and get back to where you started.  You can get so far to one side of the equation that you can't even see the other side any longer. 

Sometimes you have to realize you are over-thinking and obsessing and take a step back.  You have to try to take the emotion out of the situation, the best you can anyway, look at it with an open mind and be as logical as possible.  Trust me when I say that I know this is easier said than done.  It can be nearly impossible to take the emotion and your true feelings out of consideration in order to get a more clear picture.  Yet, many times things are completely outside of your control and nothing you do will have a positive influence. 

The most difficult thing to do many times is...nothing.  But doing nothing can be the best course of action.  The best action could be in-action.  Sometimes you just have to believe that things will work out the way they are supposed to be.  That anything you do or any action you take could make things worse.  Sometimes you just have to take a step back....breathe....and have a little faith.  The answer and outcome may not always be what you want or had hoped, but it will be the outcome that is meant to be.  You have to believe that there is a master plan leading you down this road to where you are supposed to be, as difficult as that may be. 

January 20, 2012

Friday Humor

Ok...I'm and American, but this is funny as can be!  You'll see what I mean when you read it.  Sometimes all the might in the world isn't going to win you a battle!  LOL!


Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF) 2011 Championship

We have finally reached the end of the playoffs for 2011.  You and your votes have decided the overall favorite ass for the second half of 2011.  I want to thank all of you that have participated in the voting.  This week you will have only two asses to choose from... the winner from the mid-year playoffs, and the winner from the end-of-year playoffs.  This will determine the overall fan voted favorite ass of 2011.

Good luck to your favorite, and thanks for all your votes and continuing to participate in Fantastic Ass Friday!

Mid-Year Winner

End-Of-Year Winner

January 16, 2012

Looking Back With No Regrets

Because of some recent conversations, I have done some reflecting.  I have at times sat down and taken a good hard look at my life and where it is.  I have looked at the road I have chosen and whether I have made the right decisions.  The answer is sometimes yes and sometimes no, but hindsight is always 20/20. 

I have talked about music being an important part of many peoples lives.  We all have songs that have a special meaning to us.  It really doesn't matter what the intent of the song is, we all have the ability to take lyrics and make them fit us, or interpret them our own way.  That is the beauty of music and song.  A song that has been with me a lot lately is "September" by Daughtry.  This song has been out for a while, but I was enjoying and listening to it for about a year before it ever hit the airwaves. 

To me, this song is about loving the moment.  It's enjoying where you are and not wanting it to end.  Yet, you know deep down that things are gong to change at some point.  You don't know when or how, but they will change.  This is destiny and fate.  You never know who in your life might be a part of that change and who will not.  No matter what you will always have the memories of the good times.  You will always have memories of those that touched your life.  And if you are like me, you have no regrets for the way you have lived your life. 

You may have been  hurt or hurt other people.  You may have had heartache and joy, but when all is said and done..."reflecting now on how things could have been, it was worth it in the end".  The risk was worth it to reap the potential rewards.  I was listening to Dave Ramsey on the radio the other day and he said something that really stuck with me.  This may not be an exact quote but... "The pain of having never tried is far worse than the pain of having tried and failed."  I love this!  You can never reap the rewards if you don't even try.  Being afraid to try and wondering how it would be is no way to live.  I would much rather say I tried and failed, then didn't try at all, because the rewards are worth the effort if you do happen to succeed.   

Here is the video and song I mentioned - "September" by Daughtry.

January 14, 2012

Formspring - A Slave Question

Should a Dom in a Master/slave relationship be able to bring other women into the relationship just because he is Master?

First let me say that I think this is outside of my realm.  I am not, nor have I ever been, involved in a Master/slave relationship.  There is much more control and oversight in this type relationship.  I don't want that.  It's not for me or who I am.  So, I can't speak from experience on this, but I will give my thoughts.  I also thought this would be a good chance for other to give their thoughts and opinions in the comments. 

I want to take a minute to make a few distinctions.  To me, the wording in this question is all over the map.  For me personally, I look at each name as a different characteristic, name being Dominant or Master, while many people tend to use these interchangeably.  To me, Dominant and submissive go together, while Master and slave go together, hence the abbreviations we see all the time, D/s and M/s.  Although, in the community, someone looked at as very experienced and knowledgeable, can be referred to as a Master.  I know it's confusing. 

In the context of this question, I think it's more important to look at the difference between a submissive and a slave.  A submissive is someone who submits to a Dominant and needs to be lead and guided.  She likes having someone control her to a degree.  She gives of herself for his pleasure and direction, and defers most control to him.  Yet, this may not be completely and fully, and she still has rights, and can say no at any time.  She can have limits and it is expected for those limits to be obliged.  A slave, on the other hand, has consensually given up all of her rights.  She is owned by her Master, has no right to refuse or say no, and is at his total mercy.  This is a choice she has chosen, and a right she has given her Master...to own her without question.  Period!  She has no limits and accepts that she could be subjected to anything of her Master's choosing.

Now let's go back to me saying I will give my view and opinion on this topic.  To me, every aspect of the relationship is negotiated.  If I want to introduce a new aspect to our relationship, it is discussed, or at least has been at some point previously.  If I now my submissive does not want it and will fight me on it, then I will not bring it in just because I want to do so.  To me that is wrong and in violation of the trust she has for me.  That is how I view and go about situations such as this. 

In theory, based on having total control, a Master does not have to ask his slave.  He can do as he chooses, whether this is some new kind of activity or bringing someone else into the relationship.  As a slave, she has given up her right to disagree with this.  It is his choice and his choice alone.  There is no arguing about it...his way is the only way...in theory.  I think that prior to any M/s relationship, or any type power exchange relationship, how things are handled and what is expected of each should be worked out in the beginning.  DO NOT become a slave before understanding fully what you are getting yourself into.  All of these understandings should be laid out before moving forward. 

I'm sure my readers and followers will be happy to chime in with their thoughts.  Two that come to mind, that I hope will give their two cents worth on this, are Mouse and Omega.  They are the two that come to mind that could really answer this question.  I for one, look forward to seeing what others think about this topic.


January 13, 2012

FAF Playoffs - Finals

Welcome to the finals of FAF, for the second half of 2011.  We have had some good votes thus far in the first two rounds of the playoffs.  This week, in the finals, your will be choosing from the six finalists, as voted by you the viewers.  This will determine the winner of the second half of 2011.  The winner of this week will then go up against the winner for the first half of 2011, to decide the overall favorite Fantastic Ass of 2011. 

A special thanks to all of you that vote and stop by every week for FAF.  I appreciate your continued support.  Without further ado...I present the six finalists.  Good luck to your favorite!







January 9, 2012

Needles and Piercings

I consider myself a open minded person.  I tend to be able to look at a lot of things others find offensive, and maintain an objective view.  I try to comprehend situations that I don't have a clear understanding about.  Yet, as a Dominant, there are certain things I just don't get.  There are certain things that do not interest me and I don't want to participate in.  I guess in TTWD, these things would be called limits, and for me they would be hard limits. 

More specifically, this post is about needle play and piercings.  At least I guess that is what you would call it.  I'm not talking about piercings of ears, nipples or genitals.  I'm talking about piercings up and down your whole body.  In needle play, this would be needles up and down a big portion of your body.  Let me say that I do see an artistic side to some of this...multiple piercings, with ribbon run through them, to look like a corset...needles all along the side of a woman's body.  It can have an interesting look to it. 

Don't know what I'm talking about?  Well, you know I'm going to attach pictures for you.  In these pictures, I can see a certain artistic flair.  And maybe it's not much different than some people getting tattoos, or more standard piercings.  I'll just say that as much as I may see the artistry in this, it's not something which I would ever want to participate.  I would never ask or require a woman to mark and pierce her body in such a way that would leave permanent marks such as this. 

So, what are your thoughts on this?  Tell me your opinions and point of view.  I'm curious how others may see this.

January 6, 2012

FAF Year End Playoffs Round 2

Thanks to every one that voted last week.  One of the pictures ran away with the vote and the rest were all very close.  Rather than post the three pictures that are advancing to the finals, you can look back for reference if you need to do so.  Those advancing from Round 1 are numbers 1, 2, and 9.  Here is a recap of the rules for those that missed it:

- There are nineteen (19) weekly winners since the mid-year playoffs.
- There will be ten (10) to vote on in Round 1, and nine (9) to vote on in Round 2.
- The top three (3) from each week will advance to go against each other in the finals to determine the winner.
- In the preliminary rounds, you are welcome to vote up to three times, for three different pictures.  It will only let you cast one vote at a time, so you will have to reload your page to vote again.
- In the case of a tie, I will choose my favorite, between the ones tied, to advance to the next round.
- The winner of the year end playoffs will go up against the winner of the mid-year playoffs to determine the overall Fantastic Ass of the Year 2011.

Have a great weekend everyone and may your favorite ass get a lot of votes and move on to the finals.










January 4, 2012

Wednesday Humor

It's been a while since I've done one of my humor posts, and it's about time it's brought back into the picture.  I've been reading a lot of posts lately where so many people seem to be struggling...in their relationships, in life, or whatever the case may be.  So, I hope I can bring a little smile and laughter to your day and give you a break from all the stress of life.

And last but not least...
Men will look at this picture and see colored ammunition.
Women will look at this picture and see shades of lipstick.
A Kinkster will look at this picture and see...
An assortment of pocket-sized vibrators disguised as cosmetics.  :)

January 1, 2012

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to everyone!

I wish you all the best in 2012.

If this past year was good to you...may it continue.

If not, then may this next year turn the corner
and be everything you hope it will be.