July 30, 2010

Fantastic Ass Friday

I know how much all my avid followers can't wait for Friday so that they can have their ass fix to start the weekend!  Even if it is only three, maybe four, avid followers.  LOL!  OK ok...I know there are more than that.  Anyway, here you go with your weekly dose!  Enjoy!
























Have a great weekend and may it filled with all the ass you need!  :)


July 28, 2010

Bring Me To Life

Being in the lifestyle we are, or at least having the way of thinking that we do, our brains tend to gravitate towards D/s situations and ideals.  We are all more open minded than mainstream society, and our minds tend to work a bit differently.  That's just a fact and the way we are. 

Today for me is no different.  I went out to get some lunch and heard a song on the radio that I have heard a hundred times before.  I've always liked the song, but today, for whatever reason, I really listened to the words.  It was one of those light bulb moments for me.  AH HA!!!   So I went back to the office and looked up the lyrics.  They had such a deep meaning and came across just as I thought.  Well...to me at least and my my working the way it does. 

The song is "Bring Me To Life" by Evanescence.  If you read the lyrics, it sounds just like a submissive.  She has found herself and realized who and what she is.  She now sees this and doesn't, or can't, be without it any longer.  It's as if she is crying out to her Dom or Master...."save me from the nothing I've become".    "Breathe into me and make me real.  Bring me to life."  "I've been living a lie, there's nothing inside."  It hit me like a ton of bricks.  So...of course I had to share it with you, my faithful followers and readers.  :)

Below is the video and the lyrics to the song.  I hope you'll take the time to listen and read them.  Maybe it will have the same meaning and affect on you.  Maybe you will see yourself in this song.  Maybe you already have. 



       



Evanescence - Bring Me To Life


how can you see into my eyes like open doors
leading you down into my core
where I’ve become so numb 
without a soul my spirit sleeping somewhere cold
until you find it there and lead it back home

(Wake me up)
Wake me up inside
(I can’t wake up)
Wake me up inside
(Save me)
call my name and save me from the dark
(Wake me up)
bid my blood to run
(I can’t wake up)
before I come undone
(Save me)
save me from the nothing I’ve become

now that I know what I’m without
you can't just leave me
breathe into me and make me real
bring me to life

(Wake me up)
Wake me up inside
(I can’t wake up)
Wake me up inside
(Save me)
call my name and save me from the dark
(Wake me up)
bid my blood to run
(I can’t wake up)
before I come undone
(Save me)
save me from the nothing I’ve become

Bring me to life
(I've been living a lie, there's nothing inside)
Bring me to life

frozen inside without your touch without your love darling only you are the life among the dead

all this time I can't believe I couldn't see
kept in the dark but you were there in front of me
I’ve been sleeping a thousand years it seems
got to open my eyes to everything
without a thought without a voice without a soul
don't let me die here
there must be something more
bring me to life

(Wake me up)
Wake me up inside
(I can’t wake up)
Wake me up inside
(Save me)
call my name and save me from the dark
(Wake me up)
bid my blood to run
(I can’t wake up)
before I come undone
(Save me)
save me from the nothing I’ve become

(Bring me to life)
I’ve been living a lie, there’s nothing inside
(Bring me to life)


July 26, 2010

Changing Like The Tides

To be or not to be...   No that's not it.  What to be or not to be....   No that's not it either.  Ah I have it!  What to be today, and maybe be different tomorrow...  Yep that's it!

I was recently asked how I do things when I set up a meeting.  Do I have set scenes or activities I like to do?  Do I expect certain things from a sub every time we meet?  Will the scenes be different but certain activities will always be incorporated?  These questions are understandable and worth asking.  After all...a sub needs to be somewhat familiar with routine and what is expected of her. 

I agree with expectations and a sub knowing her place and what is expected of her.  Yet, I have found that I find my moods change daily, and so does my approach and what I want or need for that particular day.  Sometimes I may have a scene set out in my mind as to what I am going to do and feel my sub needs to do.  But then when it comes down to it, the mood and where things just happen to lead may be totally different.  I can be a bit anal when it comes to a schedule and staying on it.  But when it comes to my play time with my partner, the mood always seems to dictate better than I can what happens and where things go. 

If you are like me, (and no one may be like me - lol) you like a book with pictures.  I am a visual and a hands on learner.  I was even this way all through school.  I could go to class and listen to lectures all day and it not sink in.  I need to be able to see what you are talking about.  I need to be able to get my hands on it.  So, for my benefit, and the rest of you like me, I'll give you a little bit of a picture story to illustrate my changes in mood and what I want and need.



Some days I may be feeling I need this: 



















 Tomorrow I may be needing this:



















Another day it may be this: 













Then later that day I need something like this:



















Next week I may be feeling this: 



 


Then finally, I may feel my sub needs this:



















I varies from moment to moment sometimes.  I think we are all that way to a degree.  sometimes you have to deal with it and stick to your plan.  You have to do a particular scene because you know that's what your sub needs.  As a Dom, it isn't always about you.  More times than not it is all about your sub and what she needs to be to be the best sub she can be for you.  Sometimes she needs caring and loving attention.  Other times she may need to feel your power and Dominance.  Today she may need to be made to feel her full submission.  Tomorrow she may need to feel how much you care, and your protection of her.  Today, sweet and gentle loving.  Tomorrow, pushed and spanked like never before.

There are so many variables that can come into play.  Your needs, her needs, the  mood, the situation.  As long as you are both on the same page and good with how the two of you operate, then that is what is most important and what matters.

July 23, 2010

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Here are this weeks Fantastic Asses to get your weekend off on the right track!


















July 19, 2010

A Fine Line

I am one of those guys that loves having a good time, no matter what I'm doing.  I like cutting up and joking around.  I can be a smartass and sarcastic, yet it is always in fun.  I tend to say that if I'm not picking at you, then that's when you need to worry.  That's just the way I am and my personality.  You better be able to take it and enjoy the joke.  It's even better if you can and know how to fire right back at me.

When it comes to a woman, I like one that can be sassy and feisty.  I like one that can take me picking at her, and fire right back with something herself.  A sassy and fun attitude is a great thing, at least to me.  I like being able to have fun and joke around and being with someone that can do the same.  If you can't or don't have the personality type for that, then we are going to clash. 

This can be a double edged sword when it comes to a D/s relationship.  There is a fine line sometimes for a sub between being feisty and sassy and crossing the line to disrespecting your Dom.  Where is this line, you ask?  Well...that all depends on the Dom.  A Dom and his sub have to get to know each other very well to know where the line in the sand really is.  It can be different for everyone.  Some Doms may put up with a lot more than others.  Some subs may try to push to see just how far they can go.  But then again, that goes for any D/s relationship, and on a multitude of topics and levels. 

I would much rather have a fun and sassy sub, and take the chances on her pushing the limits too far, than having one that doesn't fit my personality style.  It is my job to train her just how far she can go before she crosses the line.  Eventually there could be punishment involved for crossing the line, but until I am sure she has been educated in where that line is, I can't even begin to do such.  That would begin crossing over into abuse...but that's a total other topic.  Yet, once that line is clearly marked and known by both Dom and sub, then that's another matter.  She will know the consequences for crossing over.  Especially if she jumps over the line, as opposed to just sticking a toe over. 

There is a fine line between being fun and having a good time jawing back and forth and being disrespectful.  I for one am more than willing to deal with that.  I'm willing to be forgiving on that side of things, and maybe more so than other instances.  This part of a relationship, any relationship, is important to me.  Sass away baby!  I'll let you know when you have gone too far!  :)

July 16, 2010

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Will I ever get back to posting regular posts?  The short answer is...yes!  I've been so busy that I almost even forgot FAF this week!  DOH!  I know...it's horrible to even imagine.  Here you go with the week's roundup!























July 9, 2010

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Here we are once again with our weekly asses to get you going into your weekend.  I'm kind of going with the rustic theme this week. 

I am heading out of town again this next week for work.  After that I hope to be able to start posting my normal posts again.  I know some of you have been asking, and I plan on getting back in the groove.  It's just been crazy around here for a while, and...well...honestly this just hasn't been on the top of my priority list.  I have missed you all though, so I hope to get going again very soon.

In the mean time, enjoy the pics, have a great weekend, and I wish everyone the best!