An Evolving Mindset (Part 1)

It always amazes me!  People change and and situations change.  Mindsets change.  Mmmmm...yes, mindsets change.  It's amazing how mindsets change in TTWD.  It's amazing how our perception can change.  It's amazing how what once seemed kinky, now seems normal.  What once seemed to be an activity that was way out in left field is now the sandbox you constantly play in.  It amazes me how that happens.  But...it does and I like it.  No...I love it!

I never get tired of seeing the change.  For me, it is easy to see it in other people.  Whether that happens to be my Sunshine, or someone else I have talked to or dealt with in the past.  It is a beautiful thing to be able to see and be a part of the change and progression of another person within this lifestyle.  Within myself it can be a little more difficult to see.  Yet, when I stop and look back to where I once was compared to where I am now, I can definitely see how my actions, needs, and mindset have all evolved.

I look back upon my sex life and see the vanilla activities that used to be a part of it.  It contained your normal run of the mill sex and intimacy.  Nothing at all outside of the box or outside of the norm.  Being adventurous may have been sex in the shower or early in the morning...that was it.  Could I ever go back to that?  Could I ever be happy in a relationship like that?  I can answer these questions with one resounding word...NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  It would never satisfy me and I would always be wanting and needing more. 

I have said before, and even written a post about it...once you get into this lifestyle you can never go back.  Or at least not completely.  This doesn't just apply to a submissive.  It applies to Dominants as well...this Dom included.  Once you realize this is part of who you are and something you need to be a part of your life, it is very difficult to settle for anything less.  Anything less just isn't enough.  Without it you will always be yearning for more.  You will be missing an important part of what you need.  Of course, your partner makes all the difference in the world, but if the two of you aren't on the same page sexually then you are heading down a bumpy road. 

Life is too short to settle for less than what you want, need, and deserve.  Yet, you can't just sit around hoping things will change, or waiting for what you want to come to you.  You have to be proactive.  You have to be willing to go after what you need.  If you sit around waiting, you may be waiting your whole life...and you have no one to blame but yourself for settling for less.