To The Edge...

(An excerpt from inside the head of DV...)

There you are, laying there bent across the kitchen table in your orgasmic bliss.  Chest and face on the table with your arms up next to your head.  Your legs are shaking slightly...breathing heavily...your legs barely able to hold yourself up.  You have been taunted and teased and you finally got the release that had built up so strongly inside.  You were finally shown and better understand that you get to cum when, and only when, I allow it.  That I can take you to the edge over and over without letting you cum for me.  

I can inflict pain as well as give you pleasure, and it all turns you on as it comes from my hands.  It all can take you to the edge, and only I decide if you are allowed to fall off the edge to satisfaction.  You never imagined that you could possibly enjoy pain, no less have an orgasm because of it.  But, now you are seeing just how much you need to be controlled by me, how much it turns you on to let go and be at my mercy, and how letting those feelings and sensations flow freely will allow you to feel things like you never have before.  

And here you are...used and dripping and laying across the kitchen table completely bare and naked.  Trying to catch your breath, and not really able muster the strength to rise up.  To some this would be a horrible and embarrassing position to be in.  Maybe even for you once upon a time.  But now, no shame has even crossed your mind.  You feel comfort and peace in being in this position and belonging to me.  Baring yourself to me.  

Just when you think you are about to regain your senses, you feel it.  I am now standing behind you, and you didn't even notice how I got there.  You try to rise up a bit and put my hand between your shoulder blades and shove you forcefully back down against the table.  As my hand applies pressure to your back holding you down, sensing me directly behind you, you feel my hardness against your exposed assets. You are a sloppy mess, but have come to expect this reaction from your body.  It pours uncontrollably for me, and there is nothing you can do to stop it.  

Still feeling me right behind you, rubbing myself in the mess your body has created for me, the tension building, and then all of a sudden you are filled with what you have needed more than anything else...


~DV~

Who Knew It Had A Name...

In almost every dynamic that involves D/s, M/s, BDSM, TTWD, or whatever you want to call it, there seems to be some control concept that involves some level of pain.  Most of us, but not all, seem to use pain in one form or another to derive pleasure and/or instill submission. 

What I didn't know is that there is an actual name for enjoying pain.  It's called Algolagnia.  The definition of this is deriving sexual pleasure and stimulation from physical pain, often involving an erogenous zone.  This applies to both sides of the equation as well...those that receive the pain and those that deliver the pain.  Who knew we are all really Algolagniacs?!?!

A spanking or flogging for many may be what they enjoy.  This is the type pain they have come to love, and find themselves getting sexual aroused from that.  Maybe it's rough sex that you enjoy and the potential pain mixed with pleasure that really gets you going.  Conversely, a Dominant can get sexually excited from giving a spanking or flogging.  Being able to exert his power and Dominance can be very sexually arousing.  From some of my research, I also found that pain, and we will use that term loosely, doesn't have to be physical in nature.  It can be mental as well.  A couple of examples of this would be forms of humiliation and exhibitionism.  More commonly it would be referred to as a mindfuck. 

There are some in the medical community, psychologists and psychiatrists, that have tried to determine the causes and reasons behind the pleasure.pain connection.  Really though, there have not been many thorough studies to understand this.  Although, many see it as some type of psychosis.  Some say it's beahavioral, some say it is psychologically related, some say brain abnormalities, and some say it's genetic.  The real answer is that no one knows for sure.  There is a definite correlation, though, in that it is always related to sexual sadism and/or sexual masochism. 

And here I thought we were all just a bit kinky.  Turns out there is an actual term for our dark desires.  I'm not saying that any of us are sick, demented, or off our rocker.  We all enjoy what we do and need it as part of our lives.  And by all means, this part of us is done with a partner that is fully consensual to the acts being performed.  I'm sure there is a point where it may cross over into total psychosis, but that is on a completely different level than what I am discussing here.  I just thought it would be fun to show and explain that there is a name for the enjoyment of pain that is found to be sexually arousing.  Especially since this is what so many of us use in our play time. 

So keep marching on my fellow Algolagniacs! 

Realization Of The pleasure Dynamic

There comes a point in the progression of every submissive where they realize and feel a transformation.  Every new submissive knows that a D/s relationship involves service, obedience and direction, in addition to pleasure.  A lot of subs know there is an amount of pleasure that comes with being submissive, but there is something that they feel and come to realize that can't be taught.  There is something that they awaken to eventually, and it is a huge step in their mindset and being able to move forward and grow as the submissive they are and want to be.  What is it?  The true feeling and understanding that there is more pleasure in pleasing than being pleased.

This is something that can't be taught.  It can't be forced on someone and have the real effect the same as someone who truly feels it.  When working with a submissive, I am always delighted when I hear one say they have realized how much their own orgasm doesn't matter.  They have a feeling of emptiness with nothing but their own pleasure.  They are now becoming more concerned with the pleasure of their Dom, and knowing that he is satisfied.  Knowing that she and her body have been a source of pleasure and orgasmic satisfaction for him is far more exciting and pleasurable than strictly having an orgasm herself.  This is something she has to figure out, understand and come to grips with, within herself.  Until she feels it inside and on her own, it can't be fully comprehended.  But once it is, a major milestone in her submission has been reached.

Here is a prime example of what I mean.  I cam across this writing and it best shows this side and realization of a developing and growing submissive.  It is from an email that was sent to her Dom after one of her assignments.

"I just rubbed myself and came as directed.  You were of course filling my thoughts as I did it.  What was new was as the orgasm was ending, my hips were still moving.  The thought in my head was, "I need to know he has cum.  I need to have him cum in me.  I need to know he is satisfied."  I needed that more than my own orgasm.  I know this will end up in my journal I write for you, but I wanted to share it as the thought and feeling was new and fresh."

What a wonderful thing that is!  How great is it as a Dom to be a part of the growth of a submissive and to see her open up and feel new things.  To know you have guided her in a way that has enabled her to get to this point.  To know you have helped open her up to see and feel the submissive inside herself and to experience a brand new world she hadn't seen before.  It's just like having kids and seeing them accomplish new and exciting things and being so proud of them.  I'm sure all Doms/Masters have had this feeling of elation at seeing their subs grow and progress right in front of their eyes.  It is a great feeling to know what you are doing is making a positive impact.

The realization of the pleasure dynamic in a D/s relationship, and the sub truly feeling and understanding her own need to please, is absolutely fantastic.  May you all experience those "light bulb moments" in your endeavors that make you see things in a new light that you never had before. What a wonderful world we all participate in a the joys and pleasure that are part of it!

You Want To Spank Me Where?

Photography by China Hamilton

As I was browsing through some more pictures taken by China Hamilton, I came across this one.  This picture brings something to mind in dealing with sub L.  In her discovery of who and what she really is, she has changed her opinion almost 180 degrees on so many things from when we first started.  The most notable change would be her position on pain.

When we first met, L said she didn't like pain and wasn't into anything involving pain.  My how times have changed.  She has not only found that she finds an erotic enjoyment in receiving pain, but practuically begs for it these days.  Let me clarify to a dregree about pain.  the pain inflicted upon her is in the way of spanking, nipple clamps and nipple twisting, hair pulling, and ther like.  Nothing too over the top.  Yet, every time we are together she wants it more and more, and needs it harder and deeper.  I have told her she is becoming quite a little pain slut.  The pain is so arousing to her that she feels lost without it.  She has a deep seeded need to be controlled and dominated, and to recieve the pain, which she feels as pleasure, or she doesn't feel free and coplete.  she feels she is lacking something without it. 

Back to the picture, and in connection with sub L and her need for painful stimulation, she has discovered how much she enjoys having her pussy slapped.  Slapped, spanked, smacked...however you want to look at it, she loves it.  Sometimes it's a single hard and loud smack.  Sometimes it's a series of fast and lighter smacks.  However her pussy is struck she loves it and only wants more.  She has even been able to cum and orgasm just from having her pussy slapped.  I have made her spread her legs similar to the picture, and I get onto her if she jumps too much, or tries to close her legs any at all.  It's all about me controlling her pussy and giving her the sting and heat in her pussy that she loves from the slaps.  I will admit that I do rather enjoy it as well.  It's just one of the ways I can use her to my liking, and she feels used in a way that she loves.

So...ladies/subs/slaves..what is your opinion on pussy slapping?  Have you ever had it done to you?   If so, do you like it?  If not, do you have a desire to have it done?  Just curious if this is a standard practice for a lot of you, or jsut an individual preference.