October 4, 2012

Strange But True Sex Facts...

I came across a post on the blog Lady Cheeky: Smut For Smarties.  The post is titled 88 Strange But True Sex Facts.  There was actually some really interesting facts on the list.  I am just going to post some of the ones I find most interesting and intriguing, but feel free to follow the link to the original post for the full list. 

As always feel free to comment and open discussion on any of these you like.  There is some very thought provoking information in many of these facts.


1. A woman is more likely to want to commit adultery during ovulation than at any other time in her cycle.

 4. Chocolate contains phenylethylamine, the same feel-good chemical responsible for the ecstatic high people experience through sexual attraction and love.

 9. The earth could be re-populated to its current level using the number of sperm that could fit into an aspirin capsule.

10. A chicken egg could accommodate the number of female ova necessary to repopulate the earth to its present numbers.

12. White women are the most likely to engage in anal sex, particularly if they also have a college degree.

17. During any given period, women who read romance novels have a tendency to have twice as many lovers as those who don’t.

22. Heterosexual anal sex is something 43% of women have experienced.

 23. Women consider penis size the ninth most important feature for a man, while men rate it much more highly, in third place.

24. When a man ejaculates, the initial spurt travels at 28 miles per hour – faster than the world record for the 100m sprint, which currently stands at 22.9 miles per hour.
 
28. There are 20 male masochists for every female masochist.
 
39. Every time they engage in oral sex with their partner, 30% of women swallow.

43. Women over 40 years of age are more likely to masturbate than any other group.

45. According to experts, sex is about 10 times more effective as a tranquilliser than Valium.

47. 44% of women find it impossible to enjoy sex with a man who is not their intellectual equal. Just 31% of men share this problem.

48. There are about 1,000 recognised euphemisms for ‘vagina’ in the English language.

54. During their lifetime, the average driver will have sex in their car six times.

52. 75% of Japanese women own a vibrator. The average worldwide is 47%.  And this is probably because...

37. Greek couples have sex an average of 138 times a year – placing them at the top of the world sex league. Japanese couples have sex just 45 times a year, which puts them in last place.

57. One in five women living with their boyfriend has more than one sexual partner.

60. The size of the vagina decreases by 30% as orgasm becomes imminent.

62. Inside the female body, sperm cells can survive for up to nine days.

64. Over 30% of men suffer from premature ejaculation. 10% of men are affected by erectile dysfunction.

65. It’s possible to relieve depression through masturbation.

67. The average aroused vagina is 4 inches long – shorter than the average erect penis, which measures in at 6 inches.

68. The average woman can reach orgasm in about 4 minutes through masturbation, while through intercourse, it can take 10 – 20 minutes.

69. Sneezes, along with orgasms, are the only physiological responses that cannot be voluntarily stopped once they have started.

70. Straight men tend to have smaller penises than gay men.

74. The amount of wet dreams a man is likely to have increases in line with the number of years spent in formal education.

76. The majority of women prefer to have sex in the dark.

78. When having sex, black women are 50% more likely to reach orgasm than white women.

79. 60% of non-smoking women have had no sexual partners in the past year, while 70% of women who smoke have had more than four lovers over the same timescale.

80. Women who are prone to migraines tend to have a higher sex drive than those who are not.

85. 70% of men and women admit to having fantasised about someone else while having sex.

88. An overwhelming majority of sexual partners have only skimpy knowledge of what truly turns each other on.


October 1, 2012

Dom All The Time? - Formspring

I received the following question via Formspring:

Should a Dom Dominate his submissive all the time, or just during play?

This is a pretty good question, especially for those new to the lifestyle...or whatever you want to call this.  A lot of this can seem overwhelming and confusing when you are trying to learn and get a grasp on all the different facets out there within bdsm.  When looking at how this is done, most of what someone will see has to do with the physical aspects of a D/s relationship.  They see the play, the bondage, the spankings, and whatever else you might come across.  That's just the main highlights of these types of relationships. It can leave one wondering how to actually go about the relationship itself. 

The answer to the question is...it all depends!  It depends on what the two people involved want the relationship to be.  Do you want it to just be sexual in the bedroom?  Do you want to have control outside the bedroom?  Do you want to have total control of every aspect of the subs life? What level of control does the Dom want and is the sub willing to give?  The list could go on and on. 

To a degree, this is a negotiation.  As a Dom, you have to figure out what you want and need from the relationship.  You have to know if you want control outside the bedroom, and if so, to what degree.  How do you envision this control playing out in real life?  What do you want and expect from it?  As a submissive, you have to ask the same questions of yourself.  Then, the two people can get together and see if their list of desires and visions matches up, or how well.  As a couple, you can work through your lists together to find some middle ground that fits what you both need.

The most important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong way to do this.  There is no step by step guide.  There is no bdsm or D/s police that are going to come by your house and tell you to stop because you're doing it all wrong.  There is only one rule that you need to follow above and beyond all else...DO WHAT MAKES YOU BOTH HAPPY!  Period!  The end!  That's all that matters.  As long as the two of you are happy with how you do things, nothing else matters.  Pick and choose the parts and pieces of this that are of interest to you, keep an open mind to additions later, and leave the rest on the shelf.  

Above all, enjoy yourself!  This should be fun and exciting.  It should meet some wants and needs and help you two become closer to each other.  It should build some bonds between you.  It should open the door to further and better communication.  Find all the good you can from it and enjoy yourself!  That's what it's all about!

DV


September 26, 2012

You're Welcome...



You’re Welcome…

For opening you up to be able to share with me and let me know where you are mentally and emotionally and what you are needing from me.

For being able to feel yourself being controlled and Dominated in the ways you need most. 

For being shown you can take and enjoy the pain and sting from my hand, or whatever implement I choose to use on you. 

For being made, even if for just a few minutes, to get lost in that pain and sting, and be made to let go and give into it, taking you to a place of peace and serenity. 

For being able to feel the strength I have and am giving to you to make you stronger. 

For being able to feel your own place with me and all of who you need to be for me. 

For being able to look deep within yourself to find the need to endure what I inflict upon you. 

For being able to discover within yourself, as you take all that I give, the arousal that builds uncontrollably and the wetness that begins to pour from your depths. 

For helping you discover an arousal like no other, and one you can feel only for me in being treated the way you need most. 

For making you feel things and in ways no one else has ever made you feel, even when on the surface it may seem wrong.

For being able to give yourself to me like you never have to anyone else so you can feel the sensations and in the ways you need to feel them, that are so lovely and intense for you. 

For being able to go through your day while having the reminder of me taking you in such a way, as you feel it with every move, and every time you sit down on the flesh that has been lovingly tormented by me. 

For being able to give you a clear reminder that shoots through your body, brain, and heart telling you exactly who you belong to and you wouldn't want it any other way.

For helping you find yourself and bring it into the light…your true self that has been purposely kept deep inside and hidden, and now has allowed you to not only let it out, but to embrace every part of it. 

For giving you all this you are welcome.  And thank you for allowing me the pleasure to show you this path and for all you give to me that allows me to be all this for you.  


~DV~


September 24, 2012

Where's Waldo?!?!

Thank you to those that have written to me and checked to make sure I am ok.  It was very sweet for you to be concerned.  I can assure you, as I have been asked, that I:

1. Didn't fall off the edge the earth.
2. I wasn't attacked by a wild and rabid southern animal and died from it.
and my favaorite...
3. I didn't succumb to the beginnings of the zombie apocalypse.  LOL!

There are several factors for my not being around as much.  Partly because of life.  Yes, life gets in the way of things sometimes.  But, you all wouldn't know anything about that would you?!?! 

Secondly, I have had brain freeze for a while on writing.  Or...maybe it's I have had too much on my mind and can't get it formulated into coherent thoughts enough to get it on paper (so to speak).  Whatever the case, it haven't been able to write.  I can't just write for the sake of writing.  I need my thoughts in order.  So, unfortunately, you all sit there anxiously waiting for my brain to unlock only to wake up once again to nothing.  Well, maybe that last part was a bit over-dramatized.  LOL! 

Anyway, I am still around, and hope to be putting pen to paper again very soon.  Thanks for all the well wishes and checking in on me.  It means a lot.  :)

DV



September 13, 2012

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

I hope everyone has had a great week.  Last week's winner is posted to the right, as usual.  Thanks to everyone that has voted and continues to stop by each and every week.

I haven't done this for a while, and since I have to keep all my lady fans happy and interested this week you get...drum roll please...ahhh the anticipation...and...YES!!!  It's Male Ass Week for all you Ladies! For all the guys (heterosexual ones anyway), shut-up and leave me alone. The ladies need some nice asses to view as well, and we all know that we have to keep the ladies happy or no one is happy.  :)

I hope you all enjoy, and have a fantastic weekend!



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September 7, 2012

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Welcome to the first FAF of September 2012.  Last week's winner is posted to the right.

For those that have sent me messages and wondered where I have been and why I haven't been writing...well, it just hasn't hit me.  I'm not one to write just to write.  I have to have an idea and something I feel I would like to share and touch on.  I just haven't had that inspiration lately.  Life has been crazy and I have been busy.  I haven't even had much time to look at pics and update my tumblr blog.  You know you're busy when you can't even fit your porn into your schedule.  LOL!  Anyway, thanks for your concerns, and I am doing well.  A post topic will strike me soon I'm sure.  And when it does, you can assured that I will share with you all.

In the meantime...you are still getting FAF, so stop your complaining.  ;)
BTW - for all you northern U.S. and Michigan fans...ROLL TIDE!!!
I hope you all have a great weekend!


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August 31, 2012

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Welcome to the last day of August.  The fall season is quickly approaching and summer will be coming to an end.  But, that means football (American Football) is starting back up, so all of you that are like me and love your college and pro teams can get geared up and ready. 

Last week's winner is posted to the right.  I have a special treat for you this week.  At the suggestions and assistance of one of my dear FAF blogger fans from across the pond, Blossom and her blog Beautiful Submission, we are going to use a different kind of picture this week.  We are putting things into motion for you.  Just in case your internet connection drags or the pics load slow, please be patient and let them fully load so you can see the action of each one. 

For those of you in that States, have a great extended weekend!  For everyone else...well, just have a great weekend! 


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