Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Alright everyone!  No theme this week.  Just some nice pics to head you into a long Holiday Weekend (assuming you are in the states).  There is also a question associated with the last pic, so by all means don't miss that!  :)  Enjoy!

Here is a little ass candy to get you started! 

This one I just thought was sexy and hot!

Here is your bonus pic for the week! 

The question is this...are the props in the pic M&Ms, Reeses Pieces, or Skittles?

I hope everyone has a great Memorial Day Weekend!

Breathing Fire

Sometimes things hit you wrong and it just infuriates you.  You feel a burn down deep inside and feel like you could breathe fire.  You feel like a dragon that wants to run around burning down everything in your path...just because you can.  Maybe it is something that truly does make you mad or upset, or maybe it was because it was just the wrong thing at the wrong time, and due to your mood it just didn't set well with you.  Whatever the case, we all feel this way sometimes.  It's how you handle it and deal with this issue that is what is seen most by other people and what is important in the long run.

I was recently sent a Formspring comment, from an anonymous person, that questioned my being a Dom.  This was due to previous posts where I was airing my feelings and garbage for the world to read.  The basic premise was that you can't be a Dominant and have such weak and fluttering feelings about your own life, and then say you want to be controlling of the life of someone else. At first this had me really pissed off.  But the more I thought about it, the more I started to laugh.  It dawned on me that this person obviously has no clue.  Not to mention, they didn't even have the balls to open this discussion with me and have a spirited debate about it.  They did it the cowardly way...anonymously.

Through my thoughts on this I came up with several things.  First, is is really un-Domly to share your feelings and show a more vulnerable side of yourself?  I don't think it is.  I personally ask subs to constantly share what they are feeling, how things affect them, how things physically feel, etc...  Why should I be any different?  Just because we are involved in a relationship with a dynamic such as this one, that does not mean we shouldn't share.  It may not come across as the most hardcore manly thing to do, but that doesn't make me any les of who I am.  I think it shows the softer side, and that I am willing to open that side up and share it.  It takes soeone comfortable with themself to be able to do this.  So, does this make me weaker?  Nope...I say I do it because I am strong enough to deal with it and express it. 

This also bring me back around to something I have discussed before.  There is someone out there for everyone.  Not all subs will like or be atracted to my type personality.  Just as I'm not attracted to all subs.  Everyone has varying needs and desires, and you must match those up to make for a good D/s couple.  If I'm into spanking and she is not, then we have a compatibilty problem.  If she needs humiliation and I don't like that, we have a problem.  If she requires a 24/7 HOH relationship and I can't offer it, we have a problem.  If I require someone that is into anal sex, and she is against it, then we have a problem.  There are all sorts of people out there, and not everyone matches well with everyone else.  That is just a fact of life, no matter what type relationship.  Yet, you can find someone that matches well with your owns needs and desires, and that allows for a wonderful match and growth potential with the two of you. 

Although I was ready to breathe fire for a few minutes, based on someone's apparent ignorant comment, it quickly passed and let a more logical view take over.  I am me and that's all I can be.  That is all I can expect from anyone else as well.  Just be yourself and don't be ashamed of it.  I would want no false pretenses.  Be who you are and let people like and love you for that.

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

It's a rainy day here in the south, or at least in my area of it anyway.  Yet, it's that time of the week again, and things are heating up at A Dauntless Journey.  Once again, it's time for your most anticipated post of the week....Fantastic Ass Friday.

This week's theme.............Hot women and Weapons !  Enjoy!

And here is one bonus pic just because I thought it was pretty hot!!!

"I'm On Fire!!!"

How many times have I been told this in my life?  "My pussy is on fire!!!  God what you do to me!"  I don't think I have enough fingers and toes to count that high.  Oh wait a second, yes I do, and probably on one hand.  LOL! Sorry, I was having one of those fantasy moments.  In all seriousness though, I have heard it a few times.  Some have been in emails and chat, while a couple have been live and in person. This is something you just can't look away from.  the thought that you were able to affect a woman to the point that she feels her pussy is on fire and feels it burning through her body...well, that's a feat for anyone. 

I won't say that "The Burning Pussy Syndrome" (BPS) is confined strictly to submissive women, by any means.  Yet, submissive women are the ones I have dealt with who have shared this feeling with me.  And mostly it has come from newly discovered submissive women.  From reading the blogs, I know a lot of women have this feeling of being so aroused and turned on that the heat between their legs is enormous.  Yet, they have experienced this enough to expect it.  A newly found submissive seems to be surprised by this occurrence.  Maybe she hasn't felt it before, or maybe it's just been a really long time.  Either way, she seems to be amazed at the heat build-up and the level of arousal she is experiencing.  This doesn't have to even be by means of physical contact.  It can be felt just by chatting or by emails.  It's the mental connection with what is said, and how it is said that strikes a chord deep in the core of who she is and needs to be.

Earlier today I was reading the post Always in the mood... by Ariia on My Master's Slave.  In this post she was discussing the notable difference in libidos between herself and her vanilla friend.  I think there is a good reason for this, although I'm sure it doesn't apply to everyone.  Submissive women have a tendency to be very open.  they have cleared their mind of a lot of the barriers and societal parameters most women feel they must adhere to.  Once a woman realizes she is not restrained (no pun intended) by expectations, and she is free to think and behave as a submissive, and that it is perfectly acceptable to do so, then she frees her body to experience new sensations.  When the barriers are down, and and nothing is holding back her thoughts, no matter how raunchy or slutty, her mind, emotions and body will all respond in a positive manner.  It's a big step for a lot of women to accept that it is ok to not only like sex, but to want it and need it.  And in some cases...constantly.

Given all this, it's no wonder she feels heat between her legs like never before.  She has never allowed herself to think and feel this freely about her sexual side before.  She is now allowing herself to be who she needs to be.  She needs to feel the fire in her pussy.  Once she gets a taste of it, she only needs it more.  She didn't know her pussy could feel this great, yet achy in need, all at the same time.  She didn't know she could get this wet either.  This is her new drug...her cocaine...her meth.  She got a taste and now she's addicted.  The monster wants the drug, and WANTS IT NOW!!! 

Welcome to finding yourself to all the new little submissives.  This is only the beginning for you, and it will only get better.  there will always be bumps in the road, but they are manageable.  This will be one of the best rides of your life, so enjoy every minute of it!

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

We're back again for the most anticipated post of the week.  The one post that gets you going and starts your weekend off right.  Yep...It's Fantastic Ass Friday!  I know you all have been sitting around all week anxiously awaiting Friday just for my post.  LOL!  Ok, maybe not, but I like to think so anyway. 

This week's theme is...(drumroll please)...Water and Wet Bodies!

Poison Ivy and a Mockingbird

Do you believe what goes around, comes around?  Do you believe a bad act will come back to you?  Will it come back and bite you in the ass later on?  Do you believe in karma?  Or as it may be, bad karma?  I'm not sure if I do or not.  Nonetheless, I feel like for some reason I'm being paid back for some ill will I dished out somewhere along the way.

I spent a portion of Sunday trimming the bushes in front of my house.  They were beginning to look over-grown and needed a haircut.  I knew while doing this that there was some poison ivy I was going to have to contend with.  When I got to it, I pulled it up and immediately put it in my waste bin where all the trimmings were going, so I wouldn't have to touch it again.  Ok...I know i'm a dumbass and should have put on some gloves, but I didn't.  Anyway, I immediately went inside and washed my hands really good with warm soap and water.  I wanted to make sure and get any of the itchy contaminant off before I spread it around and touched anything else.  I didn't see anymore ivy during my endeavor. 

Well, guess what?  There must have been more, or either I didn't wash well enough.  Starting Monday, I began to see a few places of the aggravating irritant show up on my legs.  Just a few little spots scattered around here and there.  They itch every so often and are annoying, but I've had outbreaks that are much worse.  Is this the bad karma I speak of?  Not hardly!  Monday night I noticed an itch in a much more...shall we say...private location.  I didn't think much of it, until Tuesday morning.  I went to get in the shower before work, and what did I find?  Yep...I now have the itchy monster invading my cock.  ARGH!!!  Somewhere along the way I must have had it on my hands and then went to use the restroom.  Anyway, I have it, although not, a bad case, in a place where no one ever wants to think about having poison ivy. 

Now you're probably sitting there reading this and cringing, laughing your ass off at me, or some combination thereof.  I'm sure you're not alone!  I'm convinced that somewhere there is some bitch I crossed at some point, with a voodoo doll of me in her hand, that is thinking I am getting just what I deserve and rolling around in the floor laughing until she can't breathe.  All I have to say is...don't laugh too hard!  You'll reverse the karma fortune, and it will come back to bite you in the ass in return.  Although, i do have to admit I do find a little bit of humor in the whole thing.  What else can I do, but laugh.  Being pissed won't make it any better. 

On another note, as any of you who have been following my blog for any length of time know, I feel that songs can be the soundtrack to our life.  I have posted songs previously that have meaning to me and/or relate to me at the time.  Yesterday I heard a new song by Rob Thomas that seemed to fit everything that I have been writing about lately.  Listening to it was like someone had turned on a lightswitch.  the name of the song is "Mockingbird" off the "Cradlesong" album.  The chorus reads like a page right out of my life at the moment:

Maybe you and me got lost somewhere

We cant move on we can stay here

Maybe weve just had enough

Well maybe we aint meant for this love

You and me tried everything

But still that mockingbird wont sing

Man this life seems enough

Well maybe we aint meant for this love

Of course you know I'm going to give tyou the song/video as well.  I wouldn't leave you hanging like that.  It really is a good song.  It would be one that I would really like, even if it didn't hit quite so close to home.  I hope you will take the time to listen and enjoy it.

Jumbled Thoughts

I know I haven't posted much lately, but after my series on decisions I had to take a step back and evaluate.  Now that I have done that, do you think I know any more than I did?  Or that I have made any decisions regarding what all I poured out into my blog?  Or that all the thoughts running through my head are any more clear than they were?  Let me answer that for you...HELL NO!!!  But really that's ok.  It will all play itself out in time, which is fine with me.  I'm not in any rush at the moment and would rather things move relatively slow, so the best possible decisions can be made. 

Having said all that and getting it out of the way, I have so many thoughts on so many subjects running through my head.  Yet it is all jumbled up and I can't quite figure out how to get it sorted into viable posts at the moment.  It's like your favorite songs being played on the piano over and over again by a beautiful naked woman.  One distracts you from the other, and you have trouble concentrating on either.  OK...OK...we all know I'd be concentrating on the beautiful naked woman, but that's not the point.  I'm just having trouble at the moment organizing my thoughts into coherent subjects I can write about.  I can't stay concentrated on one thing long enough to get it sorted and down on paper.

I was chatting last Friday with one of my readers.  It was asked why I don't have a sub currently?  And told that I would make a great Dom for someone.  Well, if you go back and read some of my older posts, the question can be answered, which relates to the whole "Decisions" subject.  As for me being a good Dom for someone...well, in my jumbled mind, although this truly flattered me, I couldn't come up with good reasons why I would be good for someone, at least at the moment.  I couldn't make good clear sense of it.  Then it came to me!  Nothing about me has changed.  Nothing is different.  I'm the same as I was a few weeks ago.  I've just had a ton of other things on my mind.  I'm not the perfect Dom for everyone.  Never claimed to be!  But for someone...someone that fits into the mold of needing what I have to offer, and their submissiveness fits into what I need them to be, then yes, I would be a good Dom for that person.  Everyone does not fit what everyone else needs.  That's why we are all so different.  That's what makes the world go around...our differences.  When the time is right, and the stars are lined up, I will find that person, that sub, again. 

In the mean time I'll keep dreaming of what may be someday.  I'll keep fantasizing about whoever it is I want to fantasize about at the moment.  I'll keep thinking up new ways to push the limits menatlly, emotionally and physically of a submissive, based on certain criteria.  I'll keep thinking up new things I can do to her to test her submissiveness, and see how far she can go.  I'll keep thinking of new ways to be slow, easy, and passionate, yet still show my Dominance.  It's a never ending process, even when you're alone.  The mind is always turning and in search of new scenes and activities. 

As for today...Today sounds like a good day to be with a naughty, bad school girl!  One that needs some attention and direction to get her back in line.  One that needs a firm hand to show her the err of her ways.  Yep, she needs a spanking soooo bad, and well...I need to give her one.  What?  What did you say?  I'm a dirty old man?!?!  You shut-up!  This is my post and my fantasy!  She's in college and over 18, so leave me alone!!!!  I'll spank her if I want to.  And, since it's my fantasy, I can guarantee you she'll like it and be begging for more as well.  LOL!  She might even call me "Daddy".  I haven't decided on that part yet!  :)

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Here I am once again, bringing you some wonderful asses to head you into your weekend!

The theme for this week is...Couples. 
This week I made sure to add a little spice for the women.  After all...I owe it to you after last week!  LOL! 

Enjoy!

Decisions (Part 3)

We all make decisions in our life that were not the correct action of choice. We all make mistakes. That is an inherent part of being human. It is learning from your mistakes that is what becomes most important. If you keep making the same mistakes over and over, well...that's where you may have a problem. Making the same mistake over and over and expecting a different outcome? That's known as insanity. Am I insane? It's possible!


Let's take a look back at my previous posts about decisions. I had a marriage that had problems. I had an affair. My marriage ended. I have a second marriage. We are openly having affairs, so to speak, and quite possibly my marriage is ending. Are we beginning to see a pattern here?

I am now making my way back around to where we started. I'm back to my contemplative state that was fueled by the post Just a Little Thing Called... on Thinking About It Differently. In her post, Maryann asks about the "L" word...Love. What is love? How do you know when you're in love? Is there such a thing as love at first sight? Do you believe in soulmates? Is it physical or is it chemical? These are a lot of good questions. I'm sure everyone has their own thoughts on it, and looks at it differently. For me, the biggest question with my relationships are:

Have I really been in love?
Have I fallen out of love?
Maybe it was them and not me?
Maybe they really weren't the right person for me?

I'm sure there are more questions, but these are the ones that immediately come to mind. I do believe I have been in love. I have cared for all my spouses (all - that sounds pretty horrible) unconditionally and wanted to be everything to them, and them for me. No relationship stays as exciting as it was when it first started. That is just a fact! Those initial butterflies, the thrill of the chase, the excitement of someone new, getting to learn all about that person. After a while things calm down and you begin to settle in. Keeping that fire between you is hard work. It takes both people involved giving everything they have to each other to keep the relationship going. No marriage or relationship is perfect all the time. Tthey all have their ups and downs. But, when one person isn't giving as much as the other, whether it's can't give as much or won't, then the breakdown has begun.

I claim just as much fault for letting my relationships get to the point they have as anyone should. It takes two people to make things work. Once you both are not on the same page, or even in the same book, then trouble looms. So, I have to ask myself...were these women the right ones for me? I don't know. Is it me that stops giving it my all and causes the breakdown of the union? Maybe. Am I incapable of keeping a relationship together long term? I don't know. Will I always be wanting to see what is on the other side of the fence? I don't know. I'll be the first to tell you the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. It may be a different kind of grass, but it's still grass and it's still green. I do love my current wife, without a doubt. But it's more like a best friend or brother sister kind of love. It's not the type where I want to be intimate with her type of love. We have grown way past that, and I believe she would tell you the exact same thing.

So where does this leave me? Yep, I'm floating in limbo in contemplation. Just thinking and wondering. I do believe the right woman for me is out there somewhere. The one that will be my everything and stay that way. The one that will help me keep the fire going at all costs. I hope that I can take all the mistakes I have made in my life, and the decisions I have made, and use them to make a better future. A better future for me as well as that special someone else. There is no replacement for experience. If mistakes are the stepping stones to learning, then I have a path to the moon and back as well as a Ph.D. I like to think that everywhere I have been in my life is just the path to where I need to be. This path is molding me into the person I need to be. That may cause a lot of heartache along the way. That's just something I have to be willing to deal with and face.

Over the past few years, my immersion in the D/s lifestyle has opened my eyes to a lot of new things. It has helped get a better view of myself and shine a light on who I think I really am. What type of D/s relationship would suit me best if I had a choice? I'm not sure. Due to my situation currently, I have not been able to get fully involved to the point that I think I know that answer. I have not found the person willing to jump in this with me fully to see where it might lead and what it might bring. I have enough experience and knowledge that I have a great basis and know where I stand on many situations and practices. I certainly don't know everything, or claim to. I am an ever evolving process, willing to learn, examine, and look at new experiences. I'm certainly not going into anything blind at this point, like I once was. Yet, anyone that thinks they are the best and that they know it all and can't learn more and be better...well, honestly they scare me.

The decisions we make, good or bad, have gotten us to where we are at this moment. If you don't like that, then make the decision to change. If you do like where you are, then great for you. The decisions we make, and the mistakes that come with those decisions, are what make you who you are today. Learn from your mistakes and your experiences. Use them to make you better going forward. I beg you not to become "insane". Your decisions ultimately form everything you are. Don't be afraid to make decisions or mistakes. That's how we learn! It's trial and error!


Decisions!!!

Decisions (Part 2)

In our last segment, I covered a lot about my life, where I have been, and how I got to where I am now. Could I have made better decisions along the way. Sure I could have. We all could have made better decisions in our life. But hindsight is 20/20, and if I had that hindsight before making my decisions, well...wouldn't life be nice. Yet, our decisions and what they make us endure in life are what shape us into the person we are today. If you are happy with where you are and the person you are today, then you can't complain. If you aren't happy, then you can make the decision(s) to change that and begin down a new road.


We can all look back and say I should have gone down the road not taken. But this is where you are now and that can't be changed. So...now we are facing the decisions of what to do next? Where do I go from here? Where do I "want" to go from here? Where do I "need" to go from here? That can be the hard part. The want versus the need may be two totally different scenarios. Especially when your decisions can have life altering affects on the other people in your life. I hate to tell you all, or even admit it to myself, but life isn't all about "you". As much as we like to be selfish and gain self-gratification in al that we do, thee are other people to be considered. And sometimes must be considered even more so than we consider ourselves.

This segment has absolutely nothing to do with me, and it has absolutely nothing to do with the D/s dynamic. It has to do with my daughter. I talked in my last post about my situation with my wife and the decision we made to stay together for our daughter. This is a very tough subject. It has more questions than answers. We both want nothing but the best for our daughter, as any parent should. We don't want her to be brought up in a broken home. We want her to be raised in a stable family with both parents present. Or that is what we have discussed and agreed upon. Last week the subject was brought up again, about what if we didn't stay married. I surprised myself when I said this, and I'll paraphrase:

I have no intentions of leaving and no intentions of splitting up our home. However, if I thought it was best for "daughter" in the long run then I would do that."

I have had to think very long and hard about this. But would I do what I though was best for her...sure I would. What is best for her? Well, that I have no idea about. I was watching "Grey's Anatomy" last year (I know I know, get off my back). There was an episode where one of the Doctors was justifying to her father about her divorce. the gist of it was that she would rather her son be raised by parents that were happy but separated, than by parents that were not happy and fought all the time. She didn't want her son raised to think and believe that is what marriage is about. That marriage is a special thing between two people that love and care for each other and show it. I can't argue with this, and it really hit home for me. Maybe my daughter is better off not being raised in a home where we can't show her what love really is and should be? Maybe she shouldn't be raised in a house where we allow each other to see other people? Not that we do it openly where she would know, mind you. Is that teaching her bad habits and giving false impressions? Is this teaching her that mariage is not sacred and special? Would she be better off with us not together?

I don't know the answers to these questions. I wish I had the hindsight already, so I would know the answer. Whatever the answer, it is not an easy one. It will not be taken lightly, and will not be made quickly. This is one that keeps me in turmoil. I love my daughter to death. So what is the right direction to take? I don't know that there is one. Thee may not be a right answer. It may just be the best of the bad alternatives.



ARGH!!! Decisions, Decisions?!?!?!?!?!

Decisions

Life is full of decisions.  Some decisions we make are the right ones and some are not.  Sometimes it's not quite that cut and dry.  There are times when it's not a matter of right and wrong.  It's more of a matter of which is the best direction to go.  Other times it's choosing the lesser of the evils.  Yet, all of the decisions we make alter what happens down the road and what comes next.

Lately I have been very reflective about my life and the choices I have made.  This stems from my current life and choices I now have to make or will be making on the horizon.  I was reading a post this morning on the blog Thining About It Differently in regards to love and how you know when you are in love.  When it comes to a special partner in your life, one that you love, the traditional way of going about a reltionship with them is to be exclusive and monogamous.  This has been an issue for me in the past, and I don't have a problem admitting to that.

My first marriage ended, not immediately but ultimately, due to the fact that I had an affair.  There were other issues in our marriage, which I'm sure led me to engage in such behavior.  Yet, I don't make excuses and the affair was a decision I made.  We probably would have still ended up divorced, but that sure didn't help matters any.  My second marriage, and current one, has taken quite a different road.  We are both very open minded, and over the years have just grown apart.  We both acknowledge and accept this.  We both know and have talked about our issues and how to resolve them.  We both agree that we aren't sure if they can be resolved.  This isn't necessarily a bad thing.  We both love each other and care for each other deeply.  It just happens to be more like a best friend situation than intimate lovers.  This is an area where we both have needs and desires that can't be tended to by the other.  We are still together now for our daughter.  We made the decision to stay together to keep our family in tact and stable for our daughter. 

We decided several years ago to try an open marriage.  Since we both have needs on a sexual level, yet don't want that with each other, and since we are staying together, we decided to give this a try.  We allow each other to see other people and still keep our home life stable.  This has allowed me the chance to explore and delve into what I have found to be so enjoyable...the D/s lifestyle.  This is something she was never interested in and wants no part of.  Actually, I never really knew I wanted it either until I had the opportunity to explore and learn more about it.  Everything just seemed to click and make sense.  I had always been fairly Dominant in bed, but now my eyes were being opened to something where I really felt a connection.  The more I read and got deeper into it, the more the pieces started to fall into place.  An understanding if you will.  Sound familiar?  Seems like a read a lot about submissives seeing the light.  Well, guess what?!?!  It happens on the other side of the fence as well. 

(As this has a few more parts to it, I will be making a multi-part series out of it.  Otherwise this will get way too long.)