Fantasic Ass Friday (FAF)

I know it's been a few weeks, but I am trying to get back into the swing of things.  My apologies to all those that have felt scorned by not receiving your weekly dose of FAF.  I will try to keep you all sated. 

The winner of the last FAF is posted to the right. 

This week I have chosen a few pics involving couples.  I hope you enjoy them.  Have a great weekend everyone!

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Revisiting an old topic...

First of all, let me say thanks to those that have sent messages and checked on me.  I know I have been absent and quiet for a while.  I went on vacation, then school started, and work has been busy.  But, I am alive and well and still kicking strong as always. 

A weird phenomenon happened to me recently.  It was a first, and I have never experienced anything like it when it comes to my writing.  Over a year ago I put one of my post from here, written in October 2010, on my Fetlife profile.  It got a few comments here and there, but not much more.  No big deal, and I never thought much about it.  Around Monday of this week a few people read and commented and it took off from there.  It was like a giant snowball that was heading downhill and gaining speed.  Over the next three days, that post has gotten 275 comments and an additional 875 "likes".  I haven't even begun to be able to keep up with all the action on it. It has been amazing.

I'm not just tooting my own horn.  I do have a point to this.  LOL!  There will always be a few people that disagree with a topic, but 98% of the comments received have been overly positive and thankful.  The post really seemed to strike a chord with those who read it, Dom and sub alike.  Most of you may be familiar with the post, but some may not be.  So, I thought I would bring it back to the forefront here, as there may be someone that this will help...or at least give someone some better understanding.

The post is...Submissive Emotions and the Dominant.


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Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

Welcome back for another Fantastic edition of FAF.  Last week's winner is posted to the right.  I will be on vacation this coming week, so there will be no FAF next Friday.  Sorry, but you've been warned ahead of time. 

I'm going with a lot of close-up shots this week, with a mix of color and Black and white.  I would have a hard time choosing a favorite, so hopefully you all will as well.  I do so love to make it a difficult choice for you.

I hope you all have a great weekend!

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Olympic submission?!?!

I was watching the London Olympics last night.  For me it's on of those things that certain games I enjoy and others I could care less.  At the same time, I can't quit watching because I just have to see who wins, and how they win.  The Olympics have control over me,and I don't like it.  I even found myself watching ping pong the other night.  I mean...really?!?!  LOL!

In all seriousness, I was watching some of the women's gymnastics.  The announcers were discussing the training regimen of one of the US Women.  I say women, but really the are all very young.  Anyway, they were talking about how talented yet stubborn she can be.  It's just part of her personality.  Her coach will push...she will push back...her coach will push more, etc...  That was almost word for word how they described it.  Sounds kind of familiar, doesn't it?

It takes a very strong coach to be able to train and push a gymnast like her.  To stand up to her to make her be better.  To make her become the best she can be.  To push her past what she wants to do and thinks is necessary, in order to become more than she ever thought she could be.  For the coach, I'm sure it can be very trying at times, yet it is the coach's job to not let her get the upper hand, and to keep her on track, improving, and progressing.

I think you can see where I'm going with this.  As a Dominant, especially for a strong willed, stubborn, head strong submissive, you must be able to stand your ground and push.  When you feel resistance, and feel her push back, you can't give in.  You must stand your ground.  You are doing her a disservice by giving in, and thereby letting her begin to control the situation.  Ultimately she needs this control from you, and needs your Dominance.  That is why she is here in the first place.  She may not always like it, but it is for her own good and to make her better...to help her grow and progress. It's in seeing the fruits of your labor that she will trust and respect you more for standing up and not giving in.  This is what she needs from you most.

But I'm sure none of you know anything about strong willed stubborn women...right?  LOL!

So, as a Dominant, be her coach.  Be her lover.  Be her rock to lean on.  Be strong for her.  this is what she wants and needs from you.  She pushes back to make sure you are standing your ground.  It's a test.  Don't fail the test.  Push her to be her best and allow her to be more than she knew she could be.  Be her coach and together the two of you just might win the equivalent of a gold medal together.

Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

I know...I know...you have all been struggling through your week wanting nothing more than to get to Friday so you can have a fresh batch of fantastic asses to view.  OK, well, maybe you were just looking forward to the weekend, and this just happens to be a good way to get it started.  LOL!  Whatever the reason, I'm glad you are here and enjoying the pictures.

Last week's winner is posted to the right.  This week I'm going to use  a "sitting" theme for the pictures.  I hope you all enjoy them, and have a great weekend!

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Fantastic Ass Friday (FAF)

We have crowned a winner for the 2012 Mid Year Playoffs.  The favorite picture of all the winners so far this year, as voted on a chosen by all of you, is...

Now it's time to resume our regularly scheduled weekly programming.   It's time to bring on some fresh new pictures and asses for your viewing and voting pleasure.  Have a great weekend everyone!

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The Strength Within

"Patience is a Virtue"...how many times have we all heard that?  For me, more than we care to count.  Especially when in today's society everything seems to be so fast and furious.  Technology has made us want instant gratification and instant results right now.  I am no exception.  Yet, at the same time I teach about patience and that some things just take time.  So how do we deal with the fact that we need patience, yet want something right this minute?

The answer is very simple...inner strength.  I think having a lot of inner strength is vitally important to being a Dominant.  I don't mean being physically strong, and even having that presence about you that exudes Dominance.  Sometimes, it can take all a dominant has to be strong and be patient.  This can be an internal battle he fights within himself. I'm not looking at this as patience in dealing with a submissive, or patience in seeing progress and growth within her.  That should be a given, as nothing happens overnight.  I'm talking about the strength to hold out yourself, as the Dominant, to be able to be better for the submissive. 

One example of this is a short story I saw attached to a picture on tumblr yesterday.  It was all about the Dom teasing the sub, getting her all worked up, letting her stew about it mentally, yet not letting her have any release.  Many times that is the point of the exercise, and in showing who is in charge and in control.  She gets her release when he allows it.  She can ache and throb within, be a sloppy mess between her legs, and she can beg and plead to have him and have her release.  She can need it more than anything.  Yet, she doesn't get it.

This is where having inner strength comes into play for the Dom.  It can be very easy to push her just a bit, and give her what she wants as soon as she begs a little.  But does that serve the greater good of your relationship?  Giving her what she wants every time she wants it, just because she asks?  I don't think it does!  It can be very difficult to say no to a beautiful woman who is overly sexually aroused, and begging and pleading to be taken.  I mean, who in their right mind would turn that down, right?  But part of being in control is being in control of yourself.  You have to be strong to deny her to accomplish the goal you set out to reach. 

Another aspect of inner strength has to do with standing firm in your beliefs, your rules, and your expectations.  You can't be wishy washy and go back and forth.  Remaining steadfast and holding your ground is very important.  That doesn't mean you can't look at things from a different perspective and adjust how you do something.  It just means that you have to be consistent in your approach with your submissive.  You may not always feel like stepping up and taking control, but it is necessary.  Whether that is enacting punishment, giving guidance, or not cutting any slack on a known rule within the relationship.  As a Dom, you will be pushed and tested to make sure you are standing strong and that the line in the sand is still in the same place.  This can take strength to make sure you stand firm.

I believe that a much stronger relationship can be formed when a Dominant has inner strength.  Together, when he remains strong, they can reach much further than if he gives in.  the submissive will respect him much more for standing firm, then if she feels she can push him around.  Not to mention that pretty much defeats the whole purpose of the power exchange between them.  You can still be loving, and caring, and supportive, and nurturing.  Yet, you must stay strong and find your inner strength.  The strength that is part of you and the strength she deserves to see and have from you.