We Are Parts Of A Whole

This was taken from a post on a Tumblr Blog I follow...Desire's Journey.  She posts some great things so you ought to check out her Tumblr Blog.  Anyway, I thought this was fantastic.  When I read it, I felt as though I could have written this myself.  This encompasses my views and approach to TTWD so well. 

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What Is A Master?

 

I am a dominant man. I am just that.
I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part.
Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser.
I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body.
I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

Yet to you, I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness.
I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions.

You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions.
You tell me of the needs of your heart and body.
You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.
You are a woman.
You are not weak or inferior because of it.
You are a treasure to be cherished.

We are not equal.

I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you.
You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart.
Your belief in me gives me courage and direction.
Your strength disperses my doubt.
Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.

We are not equal. We are parts of a whole.
We complement each other and make each other complete.
My desire to dominate you is instinctive.

It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine.
We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood.
You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion.
You expect a man to stand strong and be a man.
You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man.
In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart.
You submit because I have earned your trust.

Because I have opened my heart and soul to you.
Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life;

You have given me dominance over you.
What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman
could give a man.
You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me.
Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility.

I accept this from you with humility and joy.
I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.
I recognize it is your body and soul,
your heart and mind.
I dominate you only because you have allowed it.
I dominate only because you have allowed me to and when I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth.

What you give freely cannot in reality be bought and if it could, it would never mean the same..

 (Michael P. - Feb, 1994 - Compuserve)

SOS - DV Needs Your Help!

Ok, my ship isn't really sinking, but I am here today to ask for your assistance.  I have been asked by one of my followers about a situation.  Honestly, I don't know the answer to this.  Yes...believe it or not, DV has been stumped.  But I also am not ashamed to admit when I don't know something.  When you don't know, the best thing to do is tap all the resources you have, and try to find the answer.  Anyway, she gave me permission to post this and ask for the assistance and opinion of you all.  So, here we are!  (and no I won't disclose who it is, so don't even ask!)

I have written quite a bit about submissives.  I have talked about the discovery of the submissive side of a woman, and a lot of what she goes through, from first discovery, to acceptance, and way beyond.  I have even talked about vanilla women finding their true inner self (submissive), and ones who didn't even know they were submissive, or were even trying to find out.  Yet, they discovered this about themselves, and found out what they had been missing for a large portion of their life.  They had no clue what was missing, or even how to look for it, no less in bdsm, but once it was found, they realized that they felt more at peace and at home than ever before.

The issue comes into play for me when we switch this around and talk about a Dominant.  Sure, a Dom discovers himself at some point as well.  I did!  But other than myself, I really have no experience with the discovery of the Dominant side of a person.  I have only dealt with submissives.  Most of what I know about other Doms I have rad online.  In the case of my follower, she is a known submissive, and has been for years.  She has experience, and knows what she wants, likes and needs. 

So the question, or questions, for you all, my faithful followers and readers, is this:

Can a vanilla man with a dominant personality become a good Dominant or Master?  There are undoubtedly men out there that have "it" inside of them, but don't know it.  How does a woman go about releasing this inner Dom within someone who doesn't even know about it?  Can a submissive woman help guide a Dominant vanilla man to be a Master over her?  Can this be done without topping from the bottom?  Is this really even possible?  There are vanilla couples that progress and move into D/s dynamics within their relationships, so how do they do it and arrive at that point?

My general thought is yes it can be done.  It's the how that I'm not sure about. I know I have read some blogs before where the dynamic is just such as this.  I just can't remember who's blog it is.  So here I am asking you all for help, thoughts, views, opinions, etc...  Give some good advice, and better yet insight, to my dear follower.  And of course she will be reading this, and all your comments.  I look forward to being able to learn something from this as well, and better myself from it.

Feel free to ask questions if you need clarification or further information, and I will provide it as I can.  Thanks in advance to all of you, and I look forward to your comments and responses.