My Collar

The Christmas season is generally not a stressful time for me.  I learned long ago that if I can get the majority of my shopping done prior to Thanksgiving, then I can spend the rest of my time putting up the tree, decorating, and enjoying the season.  But this year, outside stresses have decided to pile it on!

I work my professional job Monday-Thursday.  I also own a small side business where I get to use my creativity and play with power tools.  I generally take my last orders for Christmas one week prior, but this year I had a couple of requests that I caved and agreed too.  Two items I outsourced to have cut.  The delivery came yesterday and I knew I had plenty of time to finished them up and have delivered before Christmas.  Until I opened the box....One of the items was spelled wrong and cut in the wrong font.  Three items were each broke in three pieces, and two items were broke in half.  Of course it is now too late to have them recut and finished before Christmas.  I hate having to tell customers that I have failed them and now they are going to be scrambling to come up with another gift idea.  That was the last straw for me last night.  I just broke down and all the little things that have been piling up over the last week came pouring out in a ugly cry. 

"This is spelled wrong and in the wrong font.  These are broke, and these are broke. This customer issue.  This rude customer.  Plus, I have piles all over the house and garage of items that need to be finished, picked up, or delivered.  Having to lay down X amount for a new dryer 4 days before Christmas is not my idea of a good time.  My kids are grown and scattered in 3 different states so they won't be home for Christmas.  I miss my grandbabies.   The little one is struggling with daddy not being there when she wakes Christmas morning, and that breaks my heart for her.  I have to make something to bring to the work luncheon on Monday.  I have to make homemade rolls for our family Christmas lunch at your parent's house.  I'm angry about these orders and I hate disappointing customers.  I'm just overwhelmed and tired"  

Poor Master just had it laid on him in true "ugly cry" fashion.  He calmly asked "What do you need"  "What can I do for you"  I had no answer for him.  None of this can be fixed.  It just is what it is.

That's when he got up and walked in our room.  When he came back, he had my collar in his hands.  When he placed it around my neck, I immediately have this sense of peace wash over me.  I doesn't fix the previously stated issues, but it puts it on the back burner and allows my mind to stop for a while and gives me the break I need from all of it.  I wrapped my fingers through the O ring as I laid my head in his lap.  The next thing I know, he is waking me up and telling me it's time to go to bed.  I slept with my collar on.  I'm still wearing it as I type this out.  If  Master allows it, I will wear it until I have to leave tomorrow morning.  

I have always been in awe at how everything within me changes the moment Master places the collar around my neck.  How it calms me and refocuses my thoughts on what is important.  It reminds me of my place and who I am.  As much as I try to please my customers, the only person I truly need to please is Master DV.  When I'm stressed and upset, that doesn't please him.  So going forward, there will be changes in my side business, and the time I spend with my family.  

I woke this morning with a clear head and able to logically think through the issues weighing on me last night.  Things break during shipping.  People make mistakes.  I do the best I can for my customers and they know this.  I can't make everyone happy.  The rude ones will no longer be given my time.  Our kids grow up and start their own lives. (that one will probably always be a hard one for this momma)  Sometimes life isn't fair or easy.  This dish I'm bringing to our work luncheon will only take me 15 minutes to throw together.  The rolls don't have to be done until Christmas morning.  Plus I totally rock my homemade rolls so it's worth it.  Master knows that I have been busy and he hasn't said a word about me taking over the garage, the dinning room and part of his office.  After Monday, I have the next 6 days to get our home back in order.  More importantly, this is our first Christmas as husband and wife, Master and slave.

I love my collar!  I love it for all that it represents and for all that it does for me mentally as well as physically!

His devoted slave 

       

Hello Blogland!

Master DV has given me an assignment to write my first post introducing myself.  I’m not the writer that he is, but here goes…

I am Hds (His devoted slave), Master DV’s slave wife.  As he had mentioned in his previous post, we have been through a lot of changes, struggles, and adjustments over the years, but those struggles brought us closer and made us stronger.  Much of moving into 24/7 has been very natural, yet we have had our adjustments trying to navigate in the M/s area and figuring out what works best for us.  We also have had the usual adjustments when two people move in together.  For example…I think ketchup belongs in the fridge, and he feels it belongs in the pantry.  Seriously…the pantry!  Yuck!  Outside of the ketchup issue, we both feel very blessed to finally have exactly what we have wanted and had been working towards.  

I have always loved his writings and his views on this lifestyle, and I have been trying to get him to start writing again for a while now.  Adding me and making this a joint blog….I didn’t see that one coming!  You all know that he rarely writes and talks about his personal life, so this came as a bit of a shock to me.  It has also made me feel incredibly honored that he would want me to be a part of this.  

Master DV had given a bit of an insight as to what has been happening over the years.  I will just leave it at that for now since much of it will probably end up being it’s own individual post over time.

I would just like to end with thanking Master DV for this assignment and entrusting me with his blog that he has put so much time into over the years.  Being his slave wife is truly a blessing and my greatest pleasure!

His devoted slave

Long Time, No see...

Hello blogland!  Long time no see.  Well... you haven't seen much of me anyway.  I have still been following many of you and reading your posts from time to time, but have remained quietly in the shadows.  I turned into one of those lurkers, I suppose. 

So much has happened the past few years since I was writing and posting consistently.  Where do I even begin?  As some of you have seen, my blog was not available for a while.  I finally finished my book and self-published it.  It was a compilation of my posts and organized by content type.  The place where it was published (the giant bookseller we all know) required me to not have my blog active in order to be able to reach the most people.  I wasn't writing anyway, so I gave it a try.  Didn't gain me much activity so I have re-activated my blog.  The book is still available if you'd like a copy and don't want to scroll through my entire blog. 

On a personal front, I wrote long ago and provided some insight on my marital situation and how it had all but fallen apart.  We basically had an open marriage and stayed together for our daughter.  That finally reached the tipping point and I got divorced.  It has been a struggle at times.  As much as we were on the same page and both knew it was for the best, there have been times it hasn't gone as smooth as either of us would have liked.  I guess no divorce ever has, and every divorce can be contentious at times.  I can say we have remained friends and get along a majority of the time.  We do our best to co-parent our daughter, who has had her own struggles with it all.  Luckily we are friends and can hang out and get along so it could be much worse.

On a better note, several years ago my slave, who had been long distance relationship for over three years, decided to move so we could be together.  She basically packed up and moved across the country, with her teenage daughter in tow.  They both needed a fresh start in a new place.  I think it was a culture shock for a while, but they have since settled in nicely to the deep south southern life.  The move has been good for them both and they will both tell you they are acclimated southerners now.

In June of this year we tied the knot and married.  We both finally had what we had always wanted... to be married and able to live as legally joined Master and slave.  Both living under the same roof for the first time the way we had talked about and dreamed for a long time.  We were both used to the way things were, so being together 24/7 has had it's challenges.  It has been an adjustment for us both, but all for the good.  If I could just get her to behave like the slave she is then t would be great.  Although, she will say it's my job to make her behave.  That's part of the challenge we are adjusting to in living this on a daily basis. 

There have also been some health scares for her during 2019.  Health issues that ended up requiring surgery.  And then an additional follow-up surgery.  And then an emergency surgery less than 24 hours after the second due to a complication that arose.  I won't go into all the details in this post, as that is a post all to it's own, but life threatening situations will certainly make you re-think what is important. 

So where does that leave us going forward?  HDs (HisDevotedslave) will tell you that she has been trying to get me writing again for quite a while.  My problem is that I can't write just to write.  I have to feel it and want to write.  Yet, I think it's probably about time to get this going again.  My Dauntless Journey has now become "Our" Dauntless Journey, and sharing our journey together is the direction I see this moving.

Any of you that have followed my blog know that all my writing has been based on situations dealing with Dominants and submissives.  I have rarely, if ever written about my own relationships and daily happenings.  I have always kept things less personal, yet giving insight into the various mental and emotional aspects of this lifestyle.  That is about to change, I believe.  I think it's time to provide more of a view into our lives and what we face and encounter, both good and bad.  Some of it in relation to our Master/slave dynamic, and some more vanilla pertaining to our trying to navigate this on day in and day out basis.  After some thought, I will likely add HDs as a co-author for this blog and have her provide some posts and thoughts as well.  I think it will be good to provide thoughts and views form both sides of the aisle. 

I hope some of you are still out there and following.  I do realize that due to my prolonged absence many of you have probably gone away.  That is ok, and I wouldn't have waited around for me either.  For those of you still hanging around, the new chapter of the Journey has begun, and I look forward to sharing it with you.

~DV~

My New Book...

Hello everyone!  Well the two of you that probably still following me.  Yes. it's been a while, but I am alive and well. 

In my absence I was not completely dormant and doing nothing.  I have been compiling my blog into a book.  The book, A Dauntless Journey, is now complete and is available on Amazon.  It is a collection of my blog posts from here on Blogger.  The book has been organized into content type to put similar subject matter together by section.  Who knew one day I would become a real author?!?!  Well, kind of anyway.

I invite you to stop by Amazon and pick up a copy.  Get a second copy and send to a friend while you are there.  If you need it, there is a free Kindle Reader App you can download for your phone, tablet, or computer to allow you to read the book.  Most devices already have it installed. 

My book can be found here... A Dauntless Journey

Thanks to everyone that has supported me and provided insight and encouragement over the years that provided me the ability to write all I have.

~DV~