Hello blogland! Long time no see. Well... you haven't seen much of me anyway. I have still been following many of you and reading your posts from time to time, but have remained quietly in the shadows. I turned into one of those lurkers, I suppose.
So much has happened the past few years since I was writing and posting consistently. Where do I even begin? As some of you have seen, my blog was not available for a while. I finally finished my book and self-published it. It was a compilation of my posts and organized by content type. The place where it was published (the giant bookseller we all know) required me to not have my blog active in order to be able to reach the most people. I wasn't writing anyway, so I gave it a try. Didn't gain me much activity so I have re-activated my blog. The book is still available if you'd like a copy and don't want to scroll through my entire blog.
On a personal front, I wrote long ago and provided some insight on my marital situation and how it had all but fallen apart. We basically had an open marriage and stayed together for our daughter. That finally reached the tipping point and I got divorced. It has been a struggle at times. As much as we were on the same page and both knew it was for the best, there have been times it hasn't gone as smooth as either of us would have liked. I guess no divorce ever has, and every divorce can be contentious at times. I can say we have remained friends and get along a majority of the time. We do our best to co-parent our daughter, who has had her own struggles with it all. Luckily we are friends and can hang out and get along so it could be much worse.
On a better note, several years ago my slave, who had been long distance relationship for over three years, decided to move so we could be together. She basically packed up and moved across the country, with her teenage daughter in tow. They both needed a fresh start in a new place. I think it was a culture shock for a while, but they have since settled in nicely to the deep south southern life. The move has been good for them both and they will both tell you they are acclimated southerners now.
In June of this year we tied the knot and married. We both finally had what we had always wanted... to be married and able to live as legally joined Master and slave. Both living under the same roof for the first time the way we had talked about and dreamed for a long time. We were both used to the way things were, so being together 24/7 has had it's challenges. It has been an adjustment for us both, but all for the good. If I could just get her to behave like the slave she is then t would be great. Although, she will say it's my job to make her behave. That's part of the challenge we are adjusting to in living this on a daily basis.
There have also been some health scares for her during 2019. Health issues that ended up requiring surgery. And then an additional follow-up surgery. And then an emergency surgery less than 24 hours after the second due to a complication that arose. I won't go into all the details in this post, as that is a post all to it's own, but life threatening situations will certainly make you re-think what is important.
So where does that leave us going forward? HDs (HisDevotedslave) will tell you that she has been trying to get me writing again for quite a while. My problem is that I can't write just to write. I have to feel it and want to write. Yet, I think it's probably about time to get this going again. My Dauntless Journey has now become "Our" Dauntless Journey, and sharing our journey together is the direction I see this moving.
Any of you that have followed my blog know that all my writing has been based on situations dealing with Dominants and submissives. I have rarely, if ever written about my own relationships and daily happenings. I have always kept things less personal, yet giving insight into the various mental and emotional aspects of this lifestyle. That is about to change, I believe. I think it's time to provide more of a view into our lives and what we face and encounter, both good and bad. Some of it in relation to our Master/slave dynamic, and some more vanilla pertaining to our trying to navigate this on day in and day out basis. After some thought, I will likely add HDs as a co-author for this blog and have her provide some posts and thoughts as well. I think it will be good to provide thoughts and views form both sides of the aisle.
I hope some of you are still out there and following. I do realize that due to my prolonged absence many of you have probably gone away. That is ok, and I wouldn't have waited around for me either. For those of you still hanging around, the new chapter of the Journey has begun, and I look forward to sharing it with you.
~DV~
So much has happened the past few years since I was writing and posting consistently. Where do I even begin? As some of you have seen, my blog was not available for a while. I finally finished my book and self-published it. It was a compilation of my posts and organized by content type. The place where it was published (the giant bookseller we all know) required me to not have my blog active in order to be able to reach the most people. I wasn't writing anyway, so I gave it a try. Didn't gain me much activity so I have re-activated my blog. The book is still available if you'd like a copy and don't want to scroll through my entire blog.
On a personal front, I wrote long ago and provided some insight on my marital situation and how it had all but fallen apart. We basically had an open marriage and stayed together for our daughter. That finally reached the tipping point and I got divorced. It has been a struggle at times. As much as we were on the same page and both knew it was for the best, there have been times it hasn't gone as smooth as either of us would have liked. I guess no divorce ever has, and every divorce can be contentious at times. I can say we have remained friends and get along a majority of the time. We do our best to co-parent our daughter, who has had her own struggles with it all. Luckily we are friends and can hang out and get along so it could be much worse.
On a better note, several years ago my slave, who had been long distance relationship for over three years, decided to move so we could be together. She basically packed up and moved across the country, with her teenage daughter in tow. They both needed a fresh start in a new place. I think it was a culture shock for a while, but they have since settled in nicely to the deep south southern life. The move has been good for them both and they will both tell you they are acclimated southerners now.
In June of this year we tied the knot and married. We both finally had what we had always wanted... to be married and able to live as legally joined Master and slave. Both living under the same roof for the first time the way we had talked about and dreamed for a long time. We were both used to the way things were, so being together 24/7 has had it's challenges. It has been an adjustment for us both, but all for the good. If I could just get her to behave like the slave she is then t would be great. Although, she will say it's my job to make her behave. That's part of the challenge we are adjusting to in living this on a daily basis.
There have also been some health scares for her during 2019. Health issues that ended up requiring surgery. And then an additional follow-up surgery. And then an emergency surgery less than 24 hours after the second due to a complication that arose. I won't go into all the details in this post, as that is a post all to it's own, but life threatening situations will certainly make you re-think what is important.
So where does that leave us going forward? HDs (HisDevotedslave) will tell you that she has been trying to get me writing again for quite a while. My problem is that I can't write just to write. I have to feel it and want to write. Yet, I think it's probably about time to get this going again. My Dauntless Journey has now become "Our" Dauntless Journey, and sharing our journey together is the direction I see this moving.
Any of you that have followed my blog know that all my writing has been based on situations dealing with Dominants and submissives. I have rarely, if ever written about my own relationships and daily happenings. I have always kept things less personal, yet giving insight into the various mental and emotional aspects of this lifestyle. That is about to change, I believe. I think it's time to provide more of a view into our lives and what we face and encounter, both good and bad. Some of it in relation to our Master/slave dynamic, and some more vanilla pertaining to our trying to navigate this on day in and day out basis. After some thought, I will likely add HDs as a co-author for this blog and have her provide some posts and thoughts as well. I think it will be good to provide thoughts and views form both sides of the aisle.
I hope some of you are still out there and following. I do realize that due to my prolonged absence many of you have probably gone away. That is ok, and I wouldn't have waited around for me either. For those of you still hanging around, the new chapter of the Journey has begun, and I look forward to sharing it with you.
~DV~
It is great to see you writing again. I look forward to reading here in the future. Blogland can certainly use more authentic voices who try to navigate their dynamics.
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So much change DV Sir! It's hard at times finding the balance of life. Looking forward to hearing more from you!! Recently, mouse had a health scare too, it kinda shook us both up. Master is a bit like you Sir, He doesn't feel the need to post on our journal unless He feels that urge to share something. So far recently He has felt that need.Hope your slave wife does post, mouse would love to get to know her (from that distant sort of way) and thoughts about your life together.
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mouse
@Willie - Thanks so much for your kind words and the welcomed return.
ReplyDelete@mouse - Yes, lots of change. And yes finding that balance can be difficult at times. We have both been following your posts and about your own health scare. It reminded us of our own situation in many ways. HDs feels like she knows you (in a way at least) from reading you for so long, but hopefully she can share as well through her own posts. As always, thanks for your comments and stopping by.
~DV~
Hey - it's great to see you back!! I hope you'll find more to right about - we do need wise Dominant male voices, and you are one of those.
ReplyDeleteso happy to hear your good news this year....congrats to you both...have been lurking around mostly but am delighted to see that there will be future writings...:)
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