tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post7965655272405998111..comments2023-10-01T07:24:57.004-05:00Comments on A Dauntless Journey: The Fear Of...DauntlessVitalityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10351897046636302746noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-51026818711790766012012-07-10T06:13:15.296-05:002012-07-10T06:13:15.296-05:00Thank you for your blog it is helping me with my r...Thank you for your blog it is helping me with my recently discovered submissive side of me. I completely agree with this post as a career woman I have reached the top of the ladder and felt empty and lost. Having entered a relationship with a Dom I am rediscovering my drive and zest which has translated itself across all areas of my life.<br />I now feel anchored, sexy and strong but free and liberated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-66794905889289386222012-07-05T11:28:43.879-05:002012-07-05T11:28:43.879-05:00This is one of the things I struggled with and sti...This is one of the things I struggled with and still do to a degree. How can I be both? Both confident and strong and also have this deep seeded desire to be controlled...I have come to understand, thanks to a great Dom I know...that I can be all of these things and that it's ok to accept and embrace all sides of myself. Not to feel embarrassed or ashamed for what I need and who I am and to go after it. To let myself go and to know that the sub side of me isn't "bad" or "wrong" and it's just who I am...And I love who I am!! :)G8rBabynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-42381460282900117722012-07-05T03:57:57.235-05:002012-07-05T03:57:57.235-05:00I'm also one of these women that you describe ...I'm also one of these women that you describe (though not in the traditional sense). Expanding on your thoughts, I find a lot of my release coming from the fact that for the 90 or so minutes I have with my Sir every week, I have no responsibilities or decisions to make. He decides what I do or do not deserve. Also, very true on the insight of fear...though I'm not sure if that's the right word. I'm not afraid of being unworthy, I KNOW that I am. In my blog I wrote a short arc titled "Shame" that explores an incident where this "fear" of disappointing my Sir came up. That very feeling of disappointing our Sirs is a strong character in the story of the Submissive.SpankCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11395844586797989385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-71392004052944177092012-07-04T08:26:45.176-05:002012-07-04T08:26:45.176-05:00Great post. Very insightful. I'm one of these ...Great post. Very insightful. I'm one of these women (and I write about them too) and you've given me some food for thought about myself and my characters. Thanks!Celeste Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17636997442600551241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-19610998011030671702012-07-04T06:59:33.836-05:002012-07-04T06:59:33.836-05:00I've noticed this trend as well, DV, and it de...I've noticed this trend as well, DV, and it describes my wife to a tee--she is strong and in a position of authority, but wants to balance this out by being giving up control and feeling "taken care of" in the bedroom and in our personal relationship.<br /><br />And the point about fear of disappointing me is a good one as well--that's a bugaboo we deal with frequently. Well-thought out post!Jakehttp://leathercuffsandsilkenbonds.com/category/dominanceandsubmission/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-12346138985368990462012-07-03T20:43:26.086-05:002012-07-03T20:43:26.086-05:00What a great post. My personality is a lot like y...What a great post. My personality is a lot like you described. I can relate to this in many ways! Thanks for sharing:)<br /><br />BelleSmilingBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00614110304972793653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-207845578345799992012-07-03T14:30:52.171-05:002012-07-03T14:30:52.171-05:00Thank you all for your comments. I'm glad you...Thank you all for your comments. I'm glad you could relate to this so well. I thought it was important to make mention of this type of fear for a submissive, as well as the need by a Dom to take it seriously, handle it carefully, and not blow it off. <br /><br />FA...I don't mind at all. I always appreciate back-links to my posts and knowing I'm affecting those that read my blog enough to expound on the subject in their own way on their own blog. :0<br /><br />DVDauntlessVitalityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10351897046636302746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-82594812563070969662012-07-03T13:52:05.446-05:002012-07-03T13:52:05.446-05:00This was very insightful, you explained my persona...This was very insightful, you explained my personailty very, very well.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-54729400661728940972012-07-03T13:13:39.571-05:002012-07-03T13:13:39.571-05:00PS I hope you don't mind, I've linked to t...PS I hope you don't mind, I've linked to this post in my next post on my own blog... thanks.Fondleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03538688586112598309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-79498391194917521052012-07-03T12:34:42.650-05:002012-07-03T12:34:42.650-05:00independent / willful / strong / leader / authorit...independent / willful / strong / leader / authoritative / OCPD (one of my post titles in fact LOL) - all true, all accurate. <br /><br />Fear of disappointing my other half - also very, very true. <br /><br />Thank you for writing this. It's right on the mark in many many ways!Fondleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03538688586112598309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-3849376476718558972012-07-03T12:10:25.579-05:002012-07-03T12:10:25.579-05:00Wonderful post!
This is me exactly, I have strugg...Wonderful post! <br />This is me exactly, I have struggled with this for a long time, finally understand that I want to be controlled and lead, but I am also still myself too.<br /><br />A strong independent sometimes bossy, aggressive woman, who enjoys a firm hand as well.<br />The power play excites me, and it's been hard to fully understand it all (I'm still learning what I think I want and need)<br />I do wrestle though with fear of loss of control, as I am also very OCD in many ways.<br />Being out of control is exciting and scary, but more over exciting latelyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-41093875531848196032012-07-03T11:16:19.373-05:002012-07-03T11:16:19.373-05:00A wonderful well thought out post. It is true us s...A wonderful well thought out post. It is true us submissives do fear disappointing our Masters/Doms/Sirs/Daddys at times. Have a good fouth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-91936247056873786452012-07-03T11:05:33.857-05:002012-07-03T11:05:33.857-05:00Excellent post. Most of the women in the scene I h...Excellent post. Most of the women in the scene I have met are strong and independent people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5852181366292579823.post-25884671004291367472012-07-03T10:22:28.526-05:002012-07-03T10:22:28.526-05:00Oh i loved this..im that submissive in many ways! ...Oh i loved this..im that submissive in many ways! and i have not looked at it in that perspective before i have had this conflict (not so much now as time has gone on)that i dont seem to have specific submissive traits.<br /><br />My career is very important to me and im in a position of authority and responsibility, im determined, driven, outspoken and opinionated and i have wandered if this is a conflict or a hurdle in my submission but Master has said if anything it makes me a stronger (not in the physical sense) submissive and thats his preference.<br /><br />Its not without its downfalls sometimes i find it difficult to switch off from work mode and i feel its like perhaps having a multiple personality and i panic that i wander which one i really am...but really its possible to be both and to thrive on it.<br /><br />tori xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.com