Not All Pain Lovers Are Masochistic

In this lifestyle we choose to be involved in, almost every relationship has some form of pain involved with it.  For some it may be very mild, or more of a discomfort.  For others it may be very intense and harsh.  There are those out there that love the feel of pain.  They get turned on by it, aroused, and need it as a part of their life and from the hands of their partner.  They are the masochists.  They can't imagine going without being able to receive some sort of painful stimuli. 

I think the true masochists are few and far between.  I believe that almost all submissives love, like, or learn to like some level of pain.  This does not make them masochistic.  For them it is not about the pain itself.  Pain is a side affect of the bigger picture.  For them it is about the act and the method in which the pain is received.  Most importantly, it is about the person inflicting the pain or discomfort. 

For most submissives, pain from their Dominant is part of the relationship.  Whether that be spanking, nipple play, orgasm denial, or any number of other possibilities.  It the feeling they get from taking what their Dom dishes out.  It's feeling the strength and power from his hands.  It's being wiling to withstand what he does to her.  It's feeling her own submission to him in giving herself completely to him for whatever he desires.  This isn't necessarily about the pain itself.  It's much more mental and emotional than just receiving pain.  It's much more about her sense of belonging to him and giving all she has to give. 

So...just because you read, see or hear about a submissive and then pain she has withstood, don't think it is just about her love of pain.  More often than not, it is more about her submission itself and her Dominant.  She wouldn't take this type of treatment from just anyone.  And the same pain under different circumstances would feel totally different.  Yet, under the right circumstances, and with the right person, there is a lot a submissive will take and do, regardless of whether it's pleasurable or not.  And most can take much more than they believe they can take. 

The irony is that in some ways the pain is pleasurable as she feels her Doms pleasure in her taking what he is giving to her.  It's his control and the trust she has in him that enables her to go much further than she ever would otherwise.  This is when she feels most like herself and most at peace inwardly, as she pleases him and gives of herself completely to whatever he chooses to do.  It is in this she can totally let go and concentrate on nothing but him and their time together.